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This support group is for those who are suffering from stress or anxiety associated with uncertain HIV status. HIV anxiety is extremely isolating for those who are going through it, as it is often very difficult to discuss with friends and family members. This group is provided for sufferers of HIV anxiety to discuss their fears in a supportive environment. Those with anxiety over non-HIV STDs are also welcome. For personal advice concerning HIV risk, testing, and prevention, please post in the HIV Prevention Community.

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i have been told that my exposure was no risk as its the usual old question but why after 8 weeks am i still feeling pain in my abdomen , have fatigue in my legs and get an on and off backache throughout the day coupled with spouts of constipation and  headache . My initial symptoms at 16 days post exposure was a sudden onset of leg fatigue, diarrhea ( very watery) and headache which all lasted around 2 weeks. Week 5 was a symmetrical rash on my hands which started off as a burning sensation and then the spots appeared and week 7 was a mouth ulcer. Is this all down to anxiety???? I hope so!!
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I cannot say for sure what it is, only an examination would resolve this, but yes it could well be down to the stress you have put your self under. What it is not is hiv for sure buds.

You have to listen to all the facts and advise you have been given, understand it instead of just panicking with parnoid pointledd thoughts and things will settle down and so will your health.

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Thanks for your quick response and kind words. Teak told me it was NO RISK and i dont need testing, i took an antibody 14 day post exposure because i thought i was having "symptoms" i.e. dull ache in testicles and slight pain in abdomen . I felt pretty calm after that the doc said it was low risk and i was probably ok. then 3 days after i wake up and feel like i been hit by a truck . My legs so weak and then the diarrhea and headaches also. I realise now my test was way too early and the other thing that bothers me is that my son used my toothbrush by mistake and 2 weeks later he complaining about stomach ache and i notice spots on his face 2 either side kind of symmetrical. It only heightens my fears and now im too scared to go back for 3 month conclusive . So sure its going to be positive
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Ok, look. Only because you get ill and then your son, it does not mean that simple facts of hiv transmission should be ingnored, they should always be the starting point and if you didnt have a risk then any symptoms their after cannot be hiv related, its just that simple.

So your son has stomach pains and spots and you think its hiv really? Come on mate, is this logical - no. Is this the first time he has ever had them no and it will not be the last, fact.

Ok your fear.

1. Its so unlikely that person even has hiv, its still a rare illness.
2. Its near impossible to have enough blood from them to give you a risk, it wouls have to be dripping from his mouth or bottle.. It would look like a vampire has been around.
3. A cut in your mouth would have to be bleading so much you would leave blood on the bottle, so much no one else would touch it.
4. Saliva in not infectious, hence why kissing is safe.

So you cannot give your son somthing you cannot have and its IMPOSSIBLE you would even get hiv from this exposure.

Now if you cannot understand that, then your not understanding the simple facts or you have a phobia of hiv, pure and simple.

You might ill and so might be your son, and focusing on this may well lead to further complications because your ingnoring the facts.

If i get a cold, do i think i have bird flu? If i get have headace do i think i have a brain tummor?  of cause not. Your jumping to a far off conclusion and its so pointless. Please read these facts and if your both unwell see your doctor, but their is no point beating a dead horse..
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Im not sure you understood my risk i performed unprotected oral with ejaculation
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ok, that risk, you have so many lol.

Really the advise you had was spot on. Their really is no risk from oral sex. Take in mind how many people have oral sex every day in the world, millions and millons of people and yet their are no reported cases of hiv transmission from oral sex. Also their have been many studies with couples where one partner has hiv the other dose not. They continue to have oral sex with and the negative partner continues with that negatuve status.

When you look at all thoses facts, do you really belive your going to be the first?

Im guessing your married if you have a son or maybe this might be your first experience?
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Yes im married and this was my first and last time i just cant see any other explanation for all my initial and ongoing symptoms
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Then its guilt and paranoia that is effecting your logic here. Their are hundreds of other reasons why this is happening but your not thinking with a calm mind, only a guilt paranoid one buds.

Do you think you going to make medical history or do you think its more likely somthing else, now come on be honest here?

Symptoms and guilt do not manufacture a risk, only facts do. The fact is you didnt have one for hiv but you may have gotten a std, that is possble but even that would not create the symptoms your getting.
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Thats my point i dont think ill make medical history because there have been cases before me where they state unprotected oral as there only experience and if i came here stating i had unprotected anal ( which i didnt) and gave you my symptoms i would be told to get tested but i just get told no risk but other sites and doctors claim low risk who am i to believe
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Their are no credible cases of oral giving somone hiv but of course you can find anything on the net.

You assume the other person has hiv which is very unlikley anyway, so it would be fair to say you have hiv because your bi-sexual?

The odds of him being hiv + is 1% and getting hiv from a one time oral exposure is 0.004% ( zero in reality ) so do the maths

Honestly belive who you like, but the doctors on this site all say hiv is not a real risk of hiv, so its up to you how long you drag this out, not from fear but from guilt.
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Hi apollo in all your time on here how many cases have you dealt with like mine ( i mean the symptoms )and were theyall negative but non believers .
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If i said 1000's that would not be an understatement. People only post because of symptoms or guilt. The ones who actually have a risk never seem to make a fuss buds
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As to your previous post on how likely it was he had hiv i met him at a well known płace for this sort of thing and he said he goes there often so obviously had multiple partners just cant believe how stupid i have been . All the symptoms and timing of them have been spot on and cant see any logical reason for it!!!
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Im not going to play this merry go round. You have been plenty of information and your just asking the same questions all over again, so what you choose to do is up to you.
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