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Good day,
20 year old male here, no valid experience to be proud of..
I am very worried about the massage with extra service that I had earlier today, just about 4 hours ago.
I am male, and my massage therapist was also male. He said he had male clients who go “all the way” with him (meaning, penetrative). His last HIV test was in June, and said were negative. That’s what he said.. but of course, that’s tough to believe.
Here are the two acts we did that I felt were at risk of HIV… can you pls check if I should be worried?
1. There’s massage oil both on my butt crack and his no-condom penis (well-lubed). He vigorously rubbed his penis against my as-s-hole and given his use of massage oil.. what I’m not sure of is if the penis slid inside my as-s without me knowing? Please don’t be sarcastic with the answer, I’ve never had anal sex before, so I don’t know if the penis got inside my as-s. But he said, he didn’t put it in (and I didn’t feel an inch of his penis inside my as-s, but maybe the tip of his head went inside, and I didn’t feel it? That’s all it takes, right?)
Just two hours ago, I soaped up my as-s and finger, and inserted the finger in my as-s. I did feel the finger going in my as-s and pushing past the as-s-hole itself.. hmmm.. the question is, do you think the rubbing against the as-s-hole itself is at risk activity, and that I would've missed the fact that his penis slid into my as-s without me knowing?
2. When he came, he came on my as-s-hole itself after the vigorous rubbing. That’s where my worry is from. Could the ejaculate have slid/dropped into my as-s-hole and then infected me with HIV?
I really need help, please… thank you so much in advance to those who will seriously answer..
20 year old male here, no valid experience to be proud of..
I am very worried about the massage with extra service that I had earlier today, just about 4 hours ago.
I am male, and my massage therapist was also male. He said he had male clients who go “all the way” with him (meaning, penetrative). His last HIV test was in June, and said were negative. That’s what he said.. but of course, that’s tough to believe.
Here are the two acts we did that I felt were at risk of HIV… can you pls check if I should be worried?
1. There’s massage oil both on my butt crack and his no-condom penis (well-lubed). He vigorously rubbed his penis against my as-s-hole and given his use of massage oil.. what I’m not sure of is if the penis slid inside my as-s without me knowing? Please don’t be sarcastic with the answer, I’ve never had anal sex before, so I don’t know if the penis got inside my as-s. But he said, he didn’t put it in (and I didn’t feel an inch of his penis inside my as-s, but maybe the tip of his head went inside, and I didn’t feel it? That’s all it takes, right?)
Just two hours ago, I soaped up my as-s and finger, and inserted the finger in my as-s. I did feel the finger going in my as-s and pushing past the as-s-hole itself.. hmmm.. the question is, do you think the rubbing against the as-s-hole itself is at risk activity, and that I would've missed the fact that his penis slid into my as-s without me knowing?
2. When he came, he came on my as-s-hole itself after the vigorous rubbing. That’s where my worry is from. Could the ejaculate have slid/dropped into my as-s-hole and then infected me with HIV?
I really need help, please… thank you so much in advance to those who will seriously answer..
You had zero risk so don't need to test since there was no penetration. You would know if that happened.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching. So it doesn't matter if he rubbed because it was in the air, even if both people were bleeding at the time since it is effectively dead.
Only adult risks are unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal sex or sharing needles that you inject with.
Even with blood, lactation cuts, rashes, burns etc air does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so nothing you can add will make it a risk.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching. So it doesn't matter if he rubbed because it was in the air, even if both people were bleeding at the time since it is effectively dead.
Only adult risks are unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal sex or sharing needles that you inject with.
Even with blood, lactation cuts, rashes, burns etc air does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so nothing you can add will make it a risk.
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AnxiousNoMore, what if he came directly on the butt-h-ole itself, would it have dripped into the anus and infected me?
No I already read that, so just reread the part about the 40.
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