1 yr since unprotected sex + GC + symptoms

I’m a 30 y/o heterosexual male from the Philippines and I have been living scared for one year now.  You see, last year, I had brief unprotected sex (a few seconds before putting on a condom) with a young sex worker (HIV status unknown) in September 2009 and subsequently developed gonorrhea (we only had sex once).  Ever since I contracted gc, I have been going nuts – thinking I might have contracted HIV too.  I have never had sex since (because I’m scared).  Last July, I experienced hematospermia while masturbating.  The same urologist who saw me for my gc said I probably have prostatitis (I didn’t dare ask him about HIV).  He prescribed saw palmetto capsules which seemed to have helped (no more episodes of hematospermia).  Last month, I developed a large aphthous ulcer on my upper lip that took three weeks to go away (alum did the trick).  Last week, I again developed an aphthous ulcer, in my lower lip this time.  I placed alum again before going to sleep but noticed upon waking that I developed multiple lesions (looked like mucoceles) in my lower lip.  I discontinued the application of alum and some of the lesions subsided; but some developed into aphthous ulcers again.  Help! I’m losing my mind.  I know you’ll tell me to get tested but I just want to know -- are these symptoms (prostatitis/aphthous ulcers) due to possibly HIV?  I haven’t mustered enough courage to get tested yet (I know you don’t have patience for people like me saying that) – and I am afraid if ever I’ll turn out to be positive that I won’t be able to afford meds. What is the risk that I have contracted HIV? Please take note, I contracted gc with just one brief unprotected encounter.  Is it possible to have contracted just gc from a person who has both gc & HIV?  Doctor, in your experience, how many cases have you handled that are female-to-male transmission in just one unprotected encounter?  Sorry for the long letter.  Hope you’ll have time to answer me.

[LIZZIE LOU]

the ONLY way to know your status is by testing.