8 weeks test but still anxious

Hey,

I broke up with my ex who was from Latin America and then my hiv worries started. We talked about stds and hiv and I asked him to get tested. He says he does not have it and has not bothered to get tested since he states that he was clean before having sex with me. I was really worried though and got tested after 5 weeks and 8 weeks after our last sexual encounter. My worries have taken all my energy and I am just not happy anymore since I dont have a conclusive result yet. I guess I just need some advice and support to keep on going.
Cheers!
/Sad

[LIZZIE LOU]

a test at 8 weeks post your last exposure is HIGHLY unlikely to change.

~~~~ReLaX~~~~

test at 3 months for that conclusive result.

UNTIL you are in a monogamous relationship where BOTH of you have tested...ALWAYS use condoms for penetrative vaginal / anal penetration.  sex lasts a few minutes...HIV LASTS A LIFETIME ! ! ! ! !

[eli70]

Thanks for your answer.
I am still anxious and just can't get this out of my head. It was so irresponsible of me having sex without a condom and everytime I think about it I just feel sick. I don't know why I trusted this guy, I know you should not trust anyone unless you're in someway certain of their status. Anyway I have called him a couple of times and asked about his hiv status and he says that he is negative but how can I trust that.

I will have a hiv test tomorrow and then I'll have to wait like a week for the result. A killing week=(

[anxiousashell190]

i agree with lizzie that i guess ur not gonna change 6-8 they will show anti bodies specially after technological improvement to tests so i guess ur negative

[LIZZIE LOU]

worrying wont change your result.

re-read what i told you.

[Teak]

You are negative until you have a conclusive test result at 3 months post exposure.

[Teak]

Sorry that should have read ARE NOT negative until you  have a conclusive test result  to add to Lizzie post.

[eli70]

I know worrying wont change anything but it is hard not to when I am blaming myself really hard for my mistake. and I can't rely too much on my 8 weeks result cause I know that is not conclusive. I read in the expert forum though that the doctors sometimes don't stick to the 12 weeks which I think gets really confusing for many people including myself. 12 weeks it is though.

[LIZZIE LOU]

come back with your 3 month test :)

[eli70]

Yes I will if I survive until then:O I am exhausted.

I am still wondering why the doctors keep to 6-8 weeks follow-up? isn't that misleading or is it actually ok not sticking to the stated window period. What do you say?

[Teak]

MONEY

[eli70]

do you think they would be that evil?

[Teak]

Get your 3 month post exposure test and you'll be done with testing.

[eli70]

I got my result back!!
It was negative=) They were really quick and great at that clinic!!
I have learnt some important things from this and I am now moving on!
Thanks for the support