Relax. I do not accept those assumptions; she probably didn't have HIV. If there is no visible blood being smeared around, or wet blood going into a wound, then no HIV transmission is likely. Look at it this way: there are millions of massages every day around the world, and everybody has cuts on their fingers and elsewhere on their bodies from time to time. There have to have been millions of events when such lesions came into contact with one another, with one of the two people having HIV. Yet not one person has ever been known to acquire HIV in this manner. You're not going to be the first.
No shared needles, plus condoms for vaginal and anal sex means no HIV risk. Other kinds of personal contact do not transmit HIV and you should not be worried about them.
Take care-- HHH, MD