Even if your partner had HIV, the odds you caught it were in the range of 1 chance in 2,000. That risk is higher if you acquired nongonococcal urethritis (NGU), which seems likely, but still tghe odds are strongly in your favor. Statistically, it is not likely your commercial partner had HIV. Symptoms are never meaningful in judging new HIV infection, and you cannot judge yourself whether your lymph nodes are 'active'; without obvious swelling, probably not. If a health care provider experienced in new HIV infections recommends PCR testing, fine; but you should not request it on your own without an experienced provider's recommendation. If you just cannot handle a 6 week wait, have an antibody test at 3-4 weeks; although not definitive, a negative result after 3 weeks will be reassuring. Then have a second test a few weeks later.
Use the Search link and enter 'time to positive HIV test' and/or 'HIV diagnosis' (with the quotation marks) for over 150 threads with repeated discussions of test reliability at various intervals. Also search for 'ARS symptoms' for more information about why your symptoms probably are meaningless.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
You don't mention when the condome broke but it would have protected you up until the time it broke. I have read that HIV transmission from a broken condom although it does happen is quite rare. There is an FDA approved PCR RNA test for the expressed purpose of diagnosing early infection. It is in part FDA approved because it has a low rate of false positives - the main reason most experts warn against this type of testing. Although you would still need to follow up with antibody testing to be conlclusive, a negative on this test at two weeks would go along way in relieving your anxiety. The PCR is called Aptima and was only recently approved for early detection of HIV before antibodies can be detected.
RB