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I had unprotected anal sex with a man 4 weeks ago--I know I should not have. I know. And I didn't want to. I was top, he was bottom for only about a minute after which I pushed him off. Alarmingly I noticed an abrasion on the head of my penis after sex. Exactly one week ago I become very ill. I've had extreme fatigue, unexplained bumps on my lips, and vertigo. Two days ago I thought the worst was over; the fatigue had waned and I began to feel better. But yesterday I broke out all over my arms and torso in a morbilliform rash. I have tested negative for mono and HIV three days ago, though the HIV test would still be negative despite acute HIV infection. My questions are as follows: Does the HIV acute rash always appear at the same time as the onset of other symptoms, or does it appear in a more piecemeal way, perhaps after other symptoms have resolved? Also, does the rash always appear with a fever? I have had no fever during this illness. I feel as if this must be acute HIV infection, and that my doctors, by simply giving me an antibody test, are not doing enough to help me.
Absence of fever and sore throat is a good sign. 70% of people experiencing ARS have fever, sore throat and rash. Also, you tested negative around 3.5 weeks when 75-80% of people who are going to be positive will have positive antibody test. I think odds are in your favor. If you can find a clinic, ask for Duo test. If that is negative, you can be around 99% sure that you didn't get HIV. Then you can get an antibody test at 12 weeks to be 100% sure. Best wishes.
ok for a start how do you know that your rash is mobilliform, has it been diagnosed? All of the symptoms of ARS come on at the same time and go at the same time hence why it is called a syndrome.
You had a risk and you need to test however, as you were the top things are much more in your favour as tranmission is less likely this way but not impossible.
if you are able to get a HIV DUO then I would recommend it at this stage and then I would recommend nou re-test at 13 weeks. If the result now is negative then I would be very confident that the test at 13 weeks willl also be negative. If you are unable to get a combo then wait until 6 weeks to test and then again re-test at 13 weeks.
I think you will come out of this ok I will however caution you that unprotected penetrative sex is a risk regardless and the fact that you stated you didn't want to means you need to be confident is insisting on condoms everytime you engage in penetrative sex. No exceptions.
Well your dermatologist has no idea what he is talking about so ignore anything he has to say.
As far as Teaks response go I think you need to chill out a bit, you came on here for help and got CORRECT answers. The comment that symptoms of lack of will tell you nothing about your status is absolutely correct. All symptoms (if it is ARS) will occur simultaneously not sequentially. I already said that, they come at the same time they go at the same time.
Look, at the end of the say you had unprotected sex which is a risk. Period. You can analyse and pontificate the issue as much as you want but nothing we can say will tell you your status. Get tested, its that simple.
This forum does not discuss symptoms because HIV has no specific symptoms. Also your dermatologist doesn't have a clue about HIV if your were told HIV related symptoms do not surface until 6 months post exposure.
I think you're misreading me, zamzam4. I'm not being combative. And yes, I am asking for help, but I think as far as Teak's response is concerned, it sidesteps answering my question to instead address my motive, which I can't help but read as a little offensive because it is 1. dismissive and 2. it still leaves me hanging. Maybe my main motivation is just to ask "Do you think I have HIV." To which there is no possible answer other than a test. I know that. But with a little empathy, you might understand why someone who is sick and suspects that they have ARS may want to know the progression of acute HIV symptoms.
I have just re-read your post and apologis you aleady stated at the beginning that you had unprotected sex. It is late where I am and I misread, I am sorry for that.
The thing is I get where you are at, you had a risk and now you are micro examining your body for signs of HIV. The issue is that HIV cannot give you this.
I cannot answer your question do you think I hae HIV, only a test can tell you that. What I can say is that your symptoms are not indicative of HIV and as already said as you were the top ratheer than the bottom this is also in your favour, this does not mean however that you have not put ourself at risk.
I will ask my doctor for a combo. Is that also called ag ab or something? My family physician says to test 6 months post exposure but almost everything else indicates that 3 months is conclusive. In general there seems to be a troubling amount of confusion and/or misinformation surrounding HIV in medical professionals working here in South Carolina. I've only felt confident that people working at the the MUSC E.R. or nurses at the state health department knew what they were talking about.
I have had all possible HIV Symptomes incl. fever and all my test comes out negativ!!!
After 5 weeks, at 7 weeks, at 8 weeks and at 12 weeks and 2 days!
You can see that Symptomes are saying nothing....try to relax a bit!!!
Thanks nervenwrack and balaji72 for the comforting words and advice. I am trying to relax. It's difficult to describe exactly why I'm so worried, but the fact that I didn't want insertion, didn't want unprotected anal sex, said NO, and yet the guy inserted my penis in him anyway -- that fact has ruined my nerves and caused me to wake up every night of this illness in terror of the news to come. You see, only someone without a care for himself or others would do that. That's probably what scares me. It wasn't exactly assault but close enough. Maybe he even knew he had HIV. Who knows. I've never had unprotected sex before, and all it takes is one time. I don't want to be sick forever on account of that jerk. I'm still really scared. Still have a rash, and my throat is still somewhat sore. I'll try to chill out. I just want a second chance but I'm so pissed off at myself for even being in that position.
If you were the top then the likelihood of transmitting HIV is less likely that if you were the bottom (receptive partner) add to that that I sounds like it was very brief penetration I would say there is a good chance that you will come out of this ok.
You need to do your best to relax, you have already been told that symptoms mean nothing. Stress, anxiety and more common everydays illnesses can cause all of the symptoms you have told us about.
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