Am I most likely infected with hiv?

I am a gay male and i had sex with a condom a little over 3 months ago. it was dark and i was receptive. i put the condom on him myself. he stops penetrating me and says that he doesn't feel like doing it anymore. i heard him take off the rubber, thought everything was fine. i then go home and go to the bathroom. i looked like a whole glob of sperm came out of me. then again, he used had cream which was white. This was the one risk.

Second risk was, a guy i was seeing until last week who a friend told me was hiv positive. all he did was finger and give me oral. he never masturbated or got undressed. i also met him about a month ago.

exactly 3 weeks after my suspicions, i now came down with the flu. a high fever, upset stomach, and all the other hiv symptoms.

Should I feel confident that my hiv test is going to be negative? I am very nervous and feel that the timing is correct. i have also been under a lot of stress this past month and have heard that stress can cause your immune system to lower and it is also flu season.

please help

[deandean]

i'm sorry. not 3 months ago. 3 weeks ago

[joggen]

You can't go by symptoms. If you have reason to believe that the condom broke then you test- it's that simple.

Second risk was not a risk.

[deandean]

the condom was not broken. i examened it before i left his place. i just figure that he somehow pulled his penis out of the condom, orgasmed inside me, and then slipped it back on.

as for the second risk. i've heard that fingering anal is not a risk but he had real big fingers and used 3 at one point. what if his fingers were bleeding?

i have a feeling one of these men ruined my health. why would i worry myself and then come down with an illness? it was my sixth sense warning me.

[halfoldman]

Dear dean,greetings to you, assuming his finger was bleading is irrational, the condom was on, your fears are irrational, almost impossible to catch the virus this way,you are negative for sure, take a test if you wish to clear you mind after 8 weeks, clear your mind,and you will certainly be negative. Wish you well.

[deandean]

thanks you for the confidence. i need to change my whole outlook on this whole situation. it's been difficult because of the white stuff that came out of me. also been hard considering i got extremely ill this past week. i am very frightened to go and get tested. that is why i posted on here. so i can feel comfortable going. so that i can feel sane till my test date.

this has been a very huge set back in my life. :(

[joggen]

If the condom was not broken then you were not at risk and you have no reason to be posting on an HIV forum. You are being paranoid.

[jay251]

If your first partner used a condom then you have no risk (Weird how a "glod of sperm" came out you after) Still if the sex was unprotected, i say this due to the fact u say semen came after you had sex, the risk would still be low perharps 1 in 100 in terms of getting infected.Your exposure with your hiv positive partner is no risk due to the oral sex carrying a EXTREMELY LOW RISK to no risk transmission. However your first risk requires testing, test now for a conclusive result, most likely the results will be negative and u can put all this behinde you. Take care i personally think you'll be fine!

[LIZZIE LOU]

i looked like a whole glob of sperm came out of me. then again, he used had cream which was white.