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Am i messed up or what?
i dont know if anyone remembers my post a couple of weeks back about taking part in sexual acts with someone who lied to me about his HIV status.His whole rational on our relations and not telling me that he was positive was A) we did not engage in HIgh risk behaviour (unprotected anal sex) B) It was very private information that he didn t feel comfortable telling me C) He didnt think that there was any danger of what we were doing so it wasnt important to tell me (until i harassed him endlessly bc my gut knew something was wrong).
Well, i recently have moved to the same city where i met him, starting up university, and i have been lonely bc i dont really know the place, and i called him up and we met up and i have been seeing him frequently. Well it has gotten to the point where he starts kissing me and dry humping me, and i let him, because im 21 and i get horny too. I engage in this behaviour with him, while potentially putting my own health at risk.
Why would someone subject themselves to the possible infection that comes with knowingly engaging in any sort of sexual relationship (kissing,petting, groping) with someone with HIV? Do i need major counselling or what?
Well, i recently have moved to the same city where i met him, starting up university, and i have been lonely bc i dont really know the place, and i called him up and we met up and i have been seeing him frequently. Well it has gotten to the point where he starts kissing me and dry humping me, and i let him, because im 21 and i get horny too. I engage in this behaviour with him, while potentially putting my own health at risk.
Why would someone subject themselves to the possible infection that comes with knowingly engaging in any sort of sexual relationship (kissing,petting, groping) with someone with HIV? Do i need major counselling or what?
If you are going to be paranoid then maybe a relationship with a HIV-positive person is not for you. But the facts are these: there are PLENTY of couple out there, where one of the partners has HIV. The other person almost always remains HIV-negative as long as condoms are used for intercourse. Kissing, mutual masturbation, even oral sex has not led to HIV transmission in these scenarios. But I can't make the personal decisions for you - it's up to you to decide what do you want to do with your personal life.
RJ. Do you not worry endlessly about what could happen when he puts his lips on yours. Like i know saliva doesnt carry the virus and everything else but the paranoia of being wiht someone with HIV is really overwhelming. I feel guilt as well bc i feel like im not caring enuff about my health, and that im putting myself at risk when my parents and my friends love me so much and have done so much to help me out especially of late (paying for rent, helping me move, buying me all the perks, everything else).
i know this is a person to person basis kind of question and that u can only control your feelings but how do you not get scared when you are with him?
@nfarrell9. yes he is gay. He is so involved with the gay lifestyle, and ive been to the clubs and to his place, and seen all his books and art. There is no doubt in my mind that he is gay.
i know this is a person to person basis kind of question and that u can only control your feelings but how do you not get scared when you are with him?
@nfarrell9. yes he is gay. He is so involved with the gay lifestyle, and ive been to the clubs and to his place, and seen all his books and art. There is no doubt in my mind that he is gay.
Josh, it's OK to have a relationship with an HIV-positive person. Just make sure you protect yourself at all times.
k thanks. i need someone to smack me with a wtf are u thinking kinda post. thats not want i posted FOR its just something i think i need and u did a good job of it so thank u, ill try n be more cautious and caring for my health and push this guy off me the next time he lays his lips on mine. Not good for my mental health even if its ok for my physical.
I donno about gay male couples on here....but just be careful....and yes there are couples on here where 1 is positive and other is negative just look through the forums! good luck!
i get it. i really do. i went away for the last three days to get some perspective bc im really not feeling good abut it. I mean if this guy were HIV negative i know he would be perfect for me. he is a director and n activist for gay and latino rights. he has a beautiful demeanour. he is just a great person all around and very attractive. i really want this person in my life, even though they put me through some mental torture. I just have figured out that the capacity that he can be in my life is not the capacity he wants. He really wants me to be his bf, and i wouldnt be his first negative boyfriend, which kinda says u can sustain a relationship with someoen who is positive when u r negative. i dunno. its confusing.
i think alot of it is the stress of being in a new city where i dont know anyone and im pretty scared all the time bc of this hiv test and having to start all over again. Its a transition period and im really not thinking, so i need to let him know that its not gonna happen before i actually do get HIV from him.
Just a question: are there any gay males on here that are familiar with gay couples that stuck it out and succeeded when one was positive and the toher was negative (and it stayed that way).
i think alot of it is the stress of being in a new city where i dont know anyone and im pretty scared all the time bc of this hiv test and having to start all over again. Its a transition period and im really not thinking, so i need to let him know that its not gonna happen before i actually do get HIV from him.
Just a question: are there any gay males on here that are familiar with gay couples that stuck it out and succeeded when one was positive and the toher was negative (and it stayed that way).
Man ur playing with fire and ull eventually get burnt! i dont understand...read ur last paragraph back to yourself!? and ull definetly realize someone asking that type of question...would probably need counselling! Just be careful bro because it aint worth it! im sure the guy would make a nice friend...and thats it!
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