Anxiety regarding a past and recent handjob from masseur

Hi Doctor/Expert,

Firstly, I would like to thank you for reading my query and also apologize as I think that you might have been asked multiple times regarding this issue which I will be asking but I can't help but to post such a question. I'm in serious need of help. I'm in a state of deep anxiety that it would actually scare me to even mention HIV.

I do not know how brief I can be but I'll try to summarize what's on my mind.
About 1 year plus ago, I had called for an outcall massage. The lady came after servicing a few clients (I do not know if this info will give a clearer picture). Halfway through the massage, she undressed, pulled down my foreskin and gave me a handjob with massage oil. As far as I remember I did not touch her vagina. I ejaculated and she washed my penis with water from the shower after that and we proceeded with the massage.

1. Am I at risk of HIV from this activity?
2. I've also heard that this is one of the activity termed as "Safer Sex" which has a negligible (or even none at all) infection risk. One of the doctor I consulted mentioned that it is not that easy to get infected. Are these true?

I am so scared by this encounter that I might have developed OCD and I've went for countless HIV tests (ELISA, EIA, ECLIA). The tests are ranging from 1 day, 1 month, 3 months, 5 months, 6 months and the latest one being 9 months plus). All results showed that HIV 1 and 2 Ab/Ag as Not Detected or Non-Reactive.

3. How sure am I that I am totally fine from those tests? I'm yet to go for the 1 year test as I'm very scared and as I have mentioned earlier, I've developed OCD partly due to this.

4. I've also heard that with the current improvements on the test methods and technology, six month test is actually sufficient enough, is it true? What''s the advised test period?

What I did recently would have sounded stupid but my anxiety over this issue has become very unbearable to the point that I would try anything to overcome it. I did something very stupid and I thought that I was overcoming my anxiety at the root of it.

What I did was, on the 27th of December 2010, I went for another massage plus handjob from a private masseur. I do need to state that this masseur have a few rules for her clients which is that she won't take off her panties, she won't do oral sex and she will not have sexual intercourse with clients. This is part of the reason why I chose her for this massage.

From what I remember, it began with a normal massage with baby oil and then she proceeded with massaging my scrotum and penis which then continued with a handjob. Baby oil was used during the massage and also during the handjob, During the handjob, she also used her body, breast and nipple to stimulate the tip of my penis. Not long after that I ejaculated on my body and she wiped away the cum with toilet papers. After the ejaculation, I took a shower after she had her shower. After that we proceeded with a hand massage and she left awhile after that.

5. I have to state that I had a roundish area at the right side of my butt which is quite hard and the skin would peel off, heal, dry up and might peel off again especially if i rub it. It's a bit itchy sometimes and it has been for a few months. Sometimes, some liquid with a little bit of blood will ooze out when I press it or rub it with tissue or if i scratched it too hard, it will bleed a little. Before the massage, I've put on a bandage over it and told her not to massage that area. I think she did accidentally touch that area and I am also scared that the baby oil would flow to it and seep into the bandage. What would this "sore" be called? Would this pose any risk to me as far as HIV is concerned? Is there any other risk from it?

6. As for the case of the first massage of using massage oil and this recent one using baby oil, would both type of liquid pose a risk? Will the virus survive in massage oil and baby oil. Considering that it would have been used on multiple clients.

Right after she left, I've felt more and more panic and anxious. I took another thorough bath and I've felt that I'm back to square one. I'm scared that this would pose a new risk to me as far as this matter is concerned.

7. Am I back to square one?
8. Am I at risk from this recent massage cum handjob?
9. Is there anything that I need to do? Any tests? 3 months? 6 months? 9 months? 1 year?
10. As far as Sex is concerned, I've also been told, advised and read that as long as I did not have unprotected anal or vaginal sexual intercourse with someone whom I have no idea of their health condition, I should be fine and there shouldn't be a risk. Is it true? What about blowjob (just a question as I did not get a blowjob from the masseur)? Is it a risk?

I'm now married and still practicing safe sex with my wife. I did not have any sexual activity with anyone else. I'm planning to have kids soon and therefore, if I were to proceed with the plan, I can't use a condom when I am having sex with my wife.

11. What would your view be regarding this matter? Should I continue practicing safe sex with my wife until I've done the 3 months and 6 months test? Or can I start planning for a baby already? I want to ensure  that I will not pose a risk to my wife, my kids and the people that I care for.

Please, I'm in great need of help and your reply is deeply appreciated. I'm really really really sorry for the long explanation and queries. I just can't get it off my head and mind. Thanks in advance.

[Healthadvisory]

You had zero risk for IV,,,, you are not gonna get HIV from a handjob PERIOD>>>>>>>No need to test, no need for anything else. Move on, ,,, dont let your anxiety get the best of you.

[boshin88]

I forgot to mention that for this recent encounter, she also rubbed my anus (not deep) with the massage oil and after the encounter, my anus felt a bit of a tingling sensation after that. Is this also a cause for concern? Am I at risk from this?

[Vance2335]

no it is not a risk.

[boshin88]

I'm sorry again, do you mean by the whole post or just my comment after that? Really sorry and thanks for having a look.

[Teak]

At no time were you at risk of contracting HIV.

[mrgreek]

no risk at all.  no need to worry.  its just anxiety.