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16 days ago i had protected anal sex with a trans man, i was the top, the condom didnt break and it was latex. We used ky lube and the sex maybe lasted 2 minutes i cant remember if i came inside his anus or not but i had the condom on the whole time. Is there anyway i could get any of his fluids on me and get infected? He didnt tell me he had hiv until 2 days after the sex, im thinkin he tried to infect me by touching my anus with his fluids on his fingers. This past monday made 2 weeks exactly since and i woke up woth a stiff neck and some muscle pain/soreness. Im so scared i have gotten hiv and i dont think i can test yet. Its also a little hard to swallow but i think i made my lympth nodes swell by constantly checking them.
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That link only heightened my fear, i think i need to go get a 4th gen test to be safe.
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It proves that you can have ohl and not have HIV, so if that made you fearful, then you are trying to ignore part of the info.
Consider therapy to try to get some relief from your HIV phobia. One on one discussion will allow another person to help focus you on the 40 year old science, instead of what you are unfortunately doing by ignoring the important parts of your situation.
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Ohl is oral hairy lukeplakia, im sure thats spelled incorrect. These lines look eactly like the mild cases omline. Plus with my discormfort in my mouth just makes me freak out
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http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/279269-overview
There are many other causes of ohl, so time to move on to therapy and try to get a good life instead of this fear life doing self diagnosis. You don't even have any medical training so the therapist will explain that you have to trust the experts, just like when you get on a bus you don't tell the driver you can't trust him.
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Well its been ahwile but i ended up taking a rna test, the roche ampli cobra 2 or somrthing like that. It was suggested by metro health hospital in cleveland ohio. Well it came back non reactive/negitive. Heres thing issue though. 4 days after the possible exposure(exposure april 1 2016 was exposure april 5 2016 i was prescribed pep) i took that for a week and then stopped because of side effect risk vs. My exposure risk. So 10 days goes by without pep amd the doctors said 10 days after pep was fine for the rna test, they said the test would pick up the virus, so i took it at 19 days past exposure and 10 days atter stopping pep it came back negitive. Then 1 month i went to family doctor and he ordered a western blot. I dont know why he ordered an outdated conformitory test for diagnoises. But that camr back negitive. At around 3 months i started to have burning mouth/irrated mouth. Then about 5 mouths after exposure i have some white lines on the one side of my tongue, and i smoke so its lookimg like a very mild case of ohl. Im on the verge of a breakdown and im super scared to get that postive test result. I wore a condom but it was from a gas station bathroom. It was hygiea brand and was not expired but somehow i feel like im infected. The condom was worn correctly and did not break although im not that big down there so im not sure if the condom would snap if it had a hole.
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YES.  You would have known if the condom had broken, and you stated in your original post that it did not.  I can't even follow the entire line of testing, but it doesn't matter since you had zero risk for HIV.

I understand that you are very anxious, but it's time to move on from this event and accept the fact that you do not have HIV, and that whatever symptoms you are having aren't related to this event.
Your test was conclusive that you can't have HIV even though you were already advised that the condom did not allow you to be exposed to HIV, so this HIV fear is now a phobia.
What is ohl?
A therapist can help put all this into proper perspective and try to give you alternatives to trying to self-diagnose HIV which is never going to work.
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u had safe sex so u can't get infected that way.he can't infect u  by touching your anus with his infected fluids.
take care
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According to them, sex with condom is safe and any HIV test is conclusive if taken 12 weeks after an exposure, but you can take them before that, 3rd gen will give you an excellent indicator about your status around 6 - 8 weeks after exposure and 4th gen 4 - 6 weeks after exposure.

I'm my opinion RubyWitch's advice is the right one and she's a trusted and reputable member of this community.

Hope this helps.
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I know this forum and ************ are great, its still kind of hard to get over the fact i put myself in that position. And then when my necks stiff, muscles are sore and the anxeity kicks in it makes things alot worse. Im getting a test this Tuesday and i will get back to you guys with the results, unlike everybody else who just forgets about the forum when they get their results. And i know you guys are like oh great another one of these worry wells, but hey at least i didnt come here asking if i got hiv from a toilet seat :) thanks guys ill be in touch
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You had protected anal and the condom did not break..........NO RISK

Even if he touched your anus with his fluids, without penetration, transmission is not possible. The fluids would also have been exposed to air which renders the virus (if any) inactive.

You can not diagnose HIV with symptoms.

You had no risk so I believe your anxiety is triggering the symptoms.
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Yes i did, thank you man, im really worried about and him trying to infect me, the condom was inctact from what i saw it held my seman until he threw it away but i think he was tryin to stick his finger in my anus with his fluids on it
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Maam not man. Thank you maam!
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I responded to your question in the Private Message you sent me. Have you checked your email?
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Anybody? I know protected is protected but im still scared and having these symptoms right at 2 weeks is a little too much of a coincidence
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