Cancun bachelor party (Stripper lapdance)

Question

Three days ago, I got a lap dance from a stripper at a Cancun strip club. I DIDN'T HAVE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE. She gave me a lap dance. I had my shirt off and she allowed me to touch her vagina and rub her clitoris with my right hand when she was on top of me. I cant remember but I may have kissed above her vagina but I never let my lips touch her vagina. I was wearing jeans but no underwear; at one point, she touched my penis with her hand over my pants, I NEVER TOOK OFF MY JEANS BUT I DID HAVE MY SHIRT OFF THROUGHOUT THE LAP DANCE. I DIDN'T FINGER HER but, when I touched her vagina it was wet. I then grabbed and kissed and briefly sucked her nipples; I used my right hand, the same hand that touched her vagina and her vaginal fluids to touch her breasts. She had fake breasts. She also dry kissed me on my lips, there was no tongue or deep kissing; just a kiss.

Am I risk of contracting HIV?  I am fearing that her vaginal fluids got on her breasts before I proceeded to sucked them and then got into my mouth. Also, I didnt immediately wash my hands after the lap dance but I did wash my hands; I just cant remember if I took a **** and touched my penis with the same hand that touched her vaginal fluids. I also remember washing my hands another time in the night before I went back to the hotel. I masturbated at the end of the night and so, I am concerned if my exposed right hand that was exposed to her vagina and vaginal fluids earlier in the night poses a HIV threat when I masturbated? Earlier in the day, I masturbated in the shower and used soap and I do remember feeling a sting from the soap because I may have caused slight tears on my penis because it took me a while to cum. When I masturbated at the end of the night, could I have exposed myself to HIV? I used lotion to masturbate. 

When I got back home, I did a rapid HIV test within 72 hours of the lap dance and it was NEGATIVE. Should I do another HIV test in 2 weeks, 1 month or 3 months?

LIZZIE LOU · Answer

hiv is transmitted through...
unprotected vaginal/anal intercourse
sharing iv drug works
mother to child

CLEARLY you can see that you never put yourself at risk.

cancunanxiety · Answer

Sorry guys but, would it have made a difference if I kissed her vagina? I know for sure I didnt perform oral sex, that I know and I didnt have intercourse. I just cant remember if I kissed slightly above the vagina or actually made contact with my lips and her vagina. Also, what about the fact I rubbed her clitoris and she was wet? I didnt finger her but, I rubbed her vaginal lips and clitoris for couple of seconds.  

Just this quick clarification, thanks.

cancunanxiety · Answer

I REALLY appreciate the rapid replies. I have anxiety and it didnt help that I was drinking alcohol alot during the bachelor party, which probably exacerbated the concerns and anxiety the day after.

Thanks again!

joggen · Answer

meant abstain

joggen · Answer

"what would have had to happen for me to be concerned that night about contracting HIV or any other STDs?"

You would have had to put your unprotected penis in the stripper's vagina or anus.

"Shall I wait to have sex with her until I get another HIV test in 2 weeks or a month?"

Since the description of events you have provided is not an HIV situation, there is no reason to obstain from sex or have an HIV test. Please do not confuse guilt over an encounter with a stripper with your risk: HIV is not a punishment for married folks who go to strip clubs.

Teak · Answer

Unprotected vaginal or anal sex or sharing works to inject drugs. You don't need another test you didn't do anything to require testing.

cancunanxiety · Answer

Thanks to you both. I appreciate the rapid replies. QUESTION: As stupid as this may sound, what would have had to happen for me to be concerned that night about contracting HIV or any other STDs? I have anxiety over this mainly because I am married and my wife and I are in the midst of trying to have kids. QUESTIONS: Shall I wait to have sex with her until I get another HIV test in 2 weeks or a month? Please forgive me for being an annoyance, I've just never encountered something like this, that can be life-threatening for my loved ones.

joggen · Answer

No risk. HIV is a very fragile virus and is only transmitted when there is actual sexual penetration. If you need more information, search the forums for "fluids outside the body" or "mutual masturbation"- it has been discussed at length. You don't need additional testing.