Condom and Lubricant

Hi i had unprotected oral + protected vaginal sex with a csw. She says she's negative.

She provided the condom and the lubricant. but now i'm worried sick since i dont know if the lube was water based or not...it seemed as it was, but i dont know how to tell. is there a way to distinguish an oil based and a water based lube? I read on a couple websites that oil "denatures" latex making microtears...which makes hiv possible to transmit, and all that without obvious condom breakage, is this true?

also, im scared...what if it wasnt a latex condom? Its a LifeStyles (grey package...) but i dont remember if it said latex on it...again, felt like latex (as its not my first time having sex with a latex condom) but can one tell? is there a difference in feeling and appearance with other condoms?

Thank you so much for all your help.

[Teak]

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