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Could this be symptoms?
I had posted this on the other board,but I'm still scared to death.On Feb.2nd,My husband and I went out with some friends to a bar and I completely blacked out after several drinks.Don't remember ANYTHING.I do however have a very uncomfortable feeling that a sexual encounter occurred.I'm not 100% positive,but,just a gut feeling.I did check my pants(inside & out)for any evidence(none).My symptoms so far....starting 6 days afterwards....achy,stiff neck and shoulder muscles,flu-like feeling for 2 days without a fever,anxiety,chills for 2 days,woke up sweating on one night,now tender throat,sore jaw on right side,slight headache,fatigue,morning diarreah,loss of appitite,foggy headed,and just awkward feeling.I can't figure it out.My husband says nothing happened,but I just feel as if someone did "something".Could this be early symptoms of ARS or completely anxiety related?I have an appt. scheduled on March 5th for HIV testing,which will make it 31 days.Anyone have any opinions on my symptoms?
Thanks for posting the other boards.I checked those out earlier today,too.I have been on Xanax since Oct. and it seems to help some,but I don't want to be dependant on a lot of meds.I'm thinking this pain I'm having could be from the TMJ I have.I just bought a mouth gard today and I'm going to see if that helps any.I woke up this morning with terrible jaw pain,sensitive teeth,and pain,stiffness across my shoulders and neck.I did some searching on bruxism and it shows that it can occur especially when it's anxiety related.My husband and I have had some discussion today about the other weekend and he's 100% sure that nobody messed with me,but with me not knowing myself,it just makes me wonder.I'm still keeping my appt.just in case he's holding something back from me.Surely to goodness he isn't.Thanks again for your advice and I will seek help with my other issues,as it is really needed in order for me to completely heal.
Hey, I just realized there are a couple of other boards here you might check out: substance abuse, depression, and anxiety. WebMD has some great boards too: boards.webmd.com
Be gentle with yourself :-)
Be gentle with yourself :-)
EMDR can be good therapy for some issues, but nothing is going to fix anything in just one visit. That simply isn't going to happen. Things didn't get like this overnight, and you're not going to fix them overnight, either.
I think you very much need help getting through this. Medication and therapy can help you start getting your thoughts and behavior under control. If nothing else, think about your son. He needs you.
I think you very much need help getting through this. Medication and therapy can help you start getting your thoughts and behavior under control. If nothing else, think about your son. He needs you.
Oh yes. I definitely think the emotional stuff is more a result of alcohol abuse than anything STD related. And I definitely think the sexual stuff certainly is a result of the alcohol abuse. There are probably other issues as well; nothing ever happens in a vacuum. However, if you do have a problem with alcohol dependency, trying to fix any or all of the other problems will be pointless. That's why I suggested treatment; there you can start to address all of your issues.
The thing is, it really doesn't matter how much or how often you drink. Plenty of alcoholics only get drunk on weekends. The issue is whether it's causing problems in your life. Only you can ultimately make that decision, but there are some things you might think about along the way: Have you ever thought that you don't HAVE to drink, then drank anyway? Do you ever say, "No more, thanks," and mean it? On a regular basis? Does your personality change while drinking? Ever thought that just maybe your drinking might be a problem--on any level? Has anyone in your life ever said anything about your drinking? And finally, you experience blackouts, which are frightening to you and I think clearly a negative result of your drinking. Right now you are sitting at home (or wherever), in tears, worrying about what might or might not have happened. What effect is this (and anything else--depression, anxiety, drinking) having on your relationships?
Anyway, I don't mean for you to answer these things here, just give it some thought. Personally, I am not at all concerned about the STD/physical stuff. I am deeply concerned about everything else you've written. I wish you all the best.
The thing is, it really doesn't matter how much or how often you drink. Plenty of alcoholics only get drunk on weekends. The issue is whether it's causing problems in your life. Only you can ultimately make that decision, but there are some things you might think about along the way: Have you ever thought that you don't HAVE to drink, then drank anyway? Do you ever say, "No more, thanks," and mean it? On a regular basis? Does your personality change while drinking? Ever thought that just maybe your drinking might be a problem--on any level? Has anyone in your life ever said anything about your drinking? And finally, you experience blackouts, which are frightening to you and I think clearly a negative result of your drinking. Right now you are sitting at home (or wherever), in tears, worrying about what might or might not have happened. What effect is this (and anything else--depression, anxiety, drinking) having on your relationships?
Anyway, I don't mean for you to answer these things here, just give it some thought. Personally, I am not at all concerned about the STD/physical stuff. I am deeply concerned about everything else you've written. I wish you all the best.
On Dec 17 i had a brief inconter with a streat walker..she gave me oral sex she handed me a condom it was already out of the package rolled up but now i wondering if she put sucreaions in there.. 5 days latter i didnt feel to good..i though i was having a heart attack it felt like acid reflux but i wasnt sure..then i got uncontrolable shackes and ended up in the hospital they didnt find anything..latter i devoled burning neck, swollen glands under the armpits and groin area..few days latter i had shocking night sweats for 2 days and then intement fevers for about 2 weeks..,i also have headaches,extreme fatigue,and from the time of exposer i lost around 14 pounds..i also feel foggy headed and blurred vision..and then around 10 days latter devoled candia in my mouth now it seems out of control they put me on this wash but its been 4 days and i,m not sure if its working..i went to get tested for hiv on the 27 of jan at the hostpital it was a rapid test and it came back negative ..then again i went and got tested on feb 12 another rapid test still came back negative..the doctor told me that he believe future testing will show a negtive results and that these test he uses are extreamly senitive..and it would detect it within 3 to 4 weeks..and max at 6...is he right..i,m freaking out..also i want to point out i was under alot of stress always am and a big sweet eater junk food junky for years can that explian the thrush..please advice..
So,do you think this is sounding more like an alcohol problem instead of ARS?Am I experiencing "symptoms" too quickly?At the most,I will have a drink 3 times a week,beer,mixed,other.When I go out,once or twice a month,I have quite a bit more.Usually due to my husband ordering more.I will feel fine for quite some time,then the alcohol hits all at once and I don't realize that I've had too much.I know that this behavior really puts me at risk to anything and that's what scares me.I know I sound like a hypochondriac here and it's all my own fault.Nobody elses.I hope that it doesn't sound like I'm asking for sympathy or anything,I was just wondering if it sounds like I may have contracted something by what I am physically going through.Thank you so much for your replies,too.
Thank you for your post.It has really made me focus on "other" issues.I seem to have gone rock bottom this past year and have drank more.Why,I haven't a clue other than I can't conceive.Everything has taken a toll on me and sent me into depression.The only time I feel better is when I drink and what I realize now is that I need to focus on fixing this problem,not creating more.It just seems that it never ends and that leads me to making stupid decisions.I just wish there was a way in being able to recall all the events from 2 weeks ago and that would help me out a lot.This what if and not knowing is what's killing me.This just happened 6 months ago,too,and I still haven't quite got over that one.My husband said that I was never out of his sight,but,how can he be sure?I have drilled him everyday with every question,but,I still have that uneasy feeling.Maybe my mind is playing tricks on me and making me feel as if something happened willingly or not.I have searched for those answers,too,and come up with nothing.Time will tell.I did see a psychologist back in December and I payed her $100 just to pat on my legs.Really didn't help much there.We were doing a method called EMDR.What a waste.
Feeling like "something" happened, feeling violated, suspicious, like a basketcase--pretty much everything you describe--is very common and likely due to your alcohol dependency.
If things get to be too much, and you feel you are either an imminent danger to yourself or others, call 911, call a friend, go to the ER. It will be okay. Be gentle with yourself.
If things get to be too much, and you feel you are either an imminent danger to yourself or others, call 911, call a friend, go to the ER. It will be okay. Be gentle with yourself.
Yes it has become a problem for me here lately.Especially now.I am litteraly a basket case right now.I am clueless on what to think,do,just everything.I don't want to go anywhere or be around anyone.Sometimes I think that I am going crazy.But when I woke up to what I did,I completely lost it.It was humilliating.I can't believe that this happened and it makes me wonder just what else happened that I'm unaware of.I have asked around if anyone seen me go off with anyone,if someone seen me talking with anyone,etc. and no one seen anything,but I just can't quite shake it.Then all of these "symptoms" pop up and it really makes me wonder.I have read that anxiety can cause some of these,but so can HIV.I guess I won't know until a few weeks from now.
Dr. Handsfield was quite clear that the biggest health problem you face is from your drinking. Please listen to him. Get tested for various STDs (if nothing else, for your peace of mind), but don't worry about it in the meantime.
And I posted this on the HIV board, but then I saw you'd posted here too. In case my post gets deleted from that board, I'm copying it here.
I'm deeply concerned by the things you've written. It's clear that your life is completely out of control right now. You're in tears. You're suspicious of your husband, his friends, strangers. You're having blackouts. Your husband feels you need to be hospitalized. You're anxious, you're miserable. You feel the people around you don't understand and don't care about you, and it sounds like you're feeling very alone and afraid right now.
These are classic signs that alcohol is a problem for you. I know it's not easy, I know it takes a lot of courage to reach out for help--but you had the courage to reach out here on this board. I hope you will take the next step and consider going into treatment. You'd be able to get the medication you need to get stabilized emotionally and physically. You'd also have individual and group therapy, both for support and to help you learn new ways of coping with the stressors in your life. Help is available--you are not going through this alone.
You can do this.
And I posted this on the HIV board, but then I saw you'd posted here too. In case my post gets deleted from that board, I'm copying it here.
I'm deeply concerned by the things you've written. It's clear that your life is completely out of control right now. You're in tears. You're suspicious of your husband, his friends, strangers. You're having blackouts. Your husband feels you need to be hospitalized. You're anxious, you're miserable. You feel the people around you don't understand and don't care about you, and it sounds like you're feeling very alone and afraid right now.
These are classic signs that alcohol is a problem for you. I know it's not easy, I know it takes a lot of courage to reach out for help--but you had the courage to reach out here on this board. I hope you will take the next step and consider going into treatment. You'd be able to get the medication you need to get stabilized emotionally and physically. You'd also have individual and group therapy, both for support and to help you learn new ways of coping with the stressors in your life. Help is available--you are not going through this alone.
You can do this.
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