Dating a probable positive partner

I am a gay male.
One month back i started dating another guy.
Later I found out that he used to sleep with other guys, sometimes without protection.

By God's grace, we did not have any anal sex. We both gave and received oral with condoms.
Used to have deep kisses. We often stimulated each other by playing with each other's pennis by hand,
sometimes giving hnadjobs to each other. And enjoyed our bodies in all ways without any anal sex.
Hugging, frottage and everything.

Now i am filled with huge fears. Please tell me how much risk am I at?

[Teak]

Zero..

[whycon]

Zero? I am surprised. And does it matter that we did it quite a lot of times, i mean quite often.
Obviously, me and that guy are no more in a relation.

Do i need to test for those exposures or can i confidently move forward without thinking of it ever? Please tell me even if it is very low risk. thank you.thats a much appreciated help

[Teak]

You didn't do anything to put yourself at risk.

[whycon]

Thank You Teak You have really been very helpful.
Aagggggghhhhh I never thought sex was so difficult.

Just one more question on a general safe sex life. How do we date?

When we begin a new relation, we dont know the hiv status of the partner.
What should one do? Should we keep the sex off till we have tested together or
can we have sex (of course, with a condom) till we are tested?

Let us say we have sex always with a condom and then when we are tested together, we find that the guy is positive, how much risk for HIV will that pose?
I am very confused now and have started thinking that the sex life is full of risks.

I have had a few short relationships wherein we always used a condom, but parted our ways shortly after and were never tested together, so i dont know the partner's status? How worried should i be?

[LIZZIE LOU]

how do you date ? ? ? ?

until you are in a monogamous relationship where both of you have tested...ALWAYS use condoms.  sex lasts a few minutes...HIV LASTS A LIFETIME ! ! ! ! ! ! !

[whycon]

Thank you Lou.

Thank you Lou. I have been using condoms religiously.
Are condoms really that effective, even if the partner is hiv positive and we have had sex quite a number of times? Any need for concern?

I believe that foreplays are not a risk for hiv. Teak just cleared my doubts on this.

[LIZZIE LOU]

doesnt matter if the person is hiv positive or not...as long as a latex or polyurethane condom was used for penetrative sex.

CONDOM PROTECTED SEX = SAFE SEX.

[whycon]

Thank you LOU and Teak for all the help.

It was really a very enlightening conversation. I think that i am better educated and armed now when it comes to sex and protecting myself from hiv.

[LIZZIE LOU]

ALWAYS use plenty of water based lube.   too much friction on a condom has the potential to cause condom failure.

[whycon]

Thank you again LOU. You are so kind.

Can i expect to go a lifetime without hiv if i use condoms religiously, no matter with who i am? Actually, this incident kinda freaked me out.

[LIZZIE LOU]

hiv is transmitted through...

unprotected vaginal/anal intercourse
sharing iv drug works
mother to child

ALWAYS BE SAFE :)

[whycon]

You are so Kind. Thank you. :)