Extremely High Risk and Terrified!

[DazedKonfusedScared]

31 days ago (one month and one day) I painstakingly had receptive unprotected anal sex with another man and unprotected oral. I have known him for years and we have had sex in the past, but always used a condom. He assured me he is hiv-negative and doesn't have any STDs. I was tested two months ago and was negative. The sex act occurred while I was intoxicated and had a lapse of judgment. We had sex twice that night. The first time he wore a condom and it was in tact. The second time was when a condom wasn't used; the sex lasted about 10 minutes and he did not ejaculate (either time). Since the sex act I have had extreme nausea and fatigue. Tested negative for all stds (no hiv test) 2 week ago. My doc was concerned about anal trich (because of constipation and mucus in stool) and gave me antibiotics. I know how utterly irresponsible I was and deeply regret this act obviously. I contacted the guy again to confirm his -ve hiv status and he assured me he doesn't have it and was tested recently; he seemed very mad/upset/offended that I asked again and since no longer will answer my phone calls or text messages. I was trying to hold out til 6 weeks to have hiv testing, but I went to be tested (4 weeks) this morning and I am extremely nervous because I am only 24 years old and this is my first time EVER having unprotected sex. He claimed that my bringing the subject of HIV up after he told me he was negative made him think I was positive and thus he will not be answering any of my phone calls. Mature, right? Anywho I have to wait 7 days to get the results and even then I know I'm not in the clear. Could I be experiencing ARS with just nausea and fatigue? And if he is indeed +ve am I guaranteed to have HIV? HELP! And yes I have read "3 months is conclusive" thats not what I'm asking.

[LIZZIE LOU]

sounds more like anxiety to me.

having unprotected anal sex with someone who is hiv positive does NOT mean automatic infection...but it sure raises your risk level.

you state that you have known this guy for years...do you have a legitimate reason to doubt him about his status?  are you letting your fear and anxiety rule your thoughts?

sounds like you know when to test for a conclusive result.

[DazedKonfusedScared]

Yes I am very much a nervous wreck and can't even focus on school work or in class at all. What happened was way out of character for me. Parts of the night aren't so clear because I was drunk. I do remember that it was HIM who asked for a condom when we began, but eventually he took it off and the rest is history. Sex didn't last too long either time because he was too much for me. I am terrified his pre-cum has infected me though. The only reason I took the 4 week test is because my doctor kept advising it and I'm nervous. The doc was trying to tell me that HIV isn't as easy to catch as people think and since he didn't ejaculate in me and the sex was brief the odds are on my side. These gastrointestinal problems seriously have me thinking the worst though.