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Fingering and non sexual contact risks

Beginning apologize for my not fluent English language

I am a loyal married guy but unfortunately had this mistake and this bad story, need your assessment please.

4 months ago I was in Dubai and a CSW came to my room. we had no sexual intercourse but she performed body to body massage on me and I fingered her. Next day in the morning I discovered I have a hangnail with small spot of dried blood at the finger I used to finger her. I didn't had any ARS symptoms but only joint pain in knees that lasted for 1 week and it comes 3 weeks after.
9 days after I had combo test that come back negative.
10 days after the fingering act I was shaving and had a small cut on my check and immediately I went out and wash my hand and the wound until it 95 % stopped bleeding and then I use a tissue to press on the wound to stop bleeding and could see only a very small amount of the blood on the tissue. immediately (after 30 - 60 seconds) my wife move her hand to me to catch my hand and I just passed my hand very fast over her hand and touched her hand fearing that I might have some blood left on my fingers I used to press the tissue with on the wound. after that she immediately get one of her fingers in her mouth and started moving her finger nail between down front teethes.
after 7 weeks and 2 days my wife experienced sore throat, fever, chills, night sweats, joint pain for 2 days and stomach pain for 2 hours.

my question
- was I at risk from fingering?
- is joint pain alone an ARS?
- is the hand - hand - mouth blood contact HIV risk for my wife in case I am positive?
- do the symptoms my wife had after 7 weeks and 2 days considered ARS?
- do we need to test?

Thank you
13 Comments Post a Comment
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Hi Teak, nursegirl and lizzie. I know many asked that type of questions but I really need your assessment.
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Avatar_m_tn
You never had an exposure.
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Avatar_m_tn
thanks Teak. Last question

no exposure even if the hangnail and blood spot happened during fingering??
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Avatar_m_tn
Even if... No risk.
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Avatar_m_tn
Thanks Teak. appreciate your response
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Avatar_m_tn
another question Teak please.

promise will be the last but I do trust your assessments in the forum and couldn't  read similar one.

I was a bit drunk that time and sometimes something rise that what if something else happened like unprotected sex if I was blacked out.

could that happen without me not remembering anything? I do remember almost all clearly but not if I had possible exposure by unprotected sex without remembering that under blackout situation.
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580755_tn?1357673215
We can't answer "what if". It is impossible for us to answer.
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Avatar_m_tn
well let me ask it another way.

can anyone have unprotected sex without remembering he did?
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580755_tn?1357673215
MOVE ON, still impossible to answer
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Avatar_m_tn
so I should get a test at 3 months period ?
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580755_tn?1357673215
READ what you have been advised
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Avatar_m_tn
why you just don't make it easier to me and advise what to do.

last thing you wrote "move on" . move on with what?
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580755_tn?1357673215
Move on with your life, move on from this forum.

I did make it easy for you if you READ what has been written to you.
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