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Freaking out

Long story short. Had sex with a woman who wasn't my wife first mistake  and condom came completely off at some point 2nd mistake then 4 weeks later developed flu like symptoms worse than I've ever had before. Sore throat coughing stiff neck nausea diareah loss of appetite I lost 10 lbs sleeplessness night sweats. Unfortunately slept with wife before symptoms came on. After dr diagnosed me with viral infection it then dawned on me that it could be HIV. Tested neg for antibodies at 6,7,8 weeks but still feeling most of symptoms except cough. Now my wife has shown symptoms like what I had and now has develped strange rash on chest and stomach. Dr HHH says trust the neg test but I can't help but wonder if I haven't develppoed antibodies yet due to the fact I'm still having symptoms. Any thoughts?  I heard that the rash is the sign that the body has developed antibodies and I never got the rash.  So now I either wait 4 more weeks or bite the bullet and tell the wife to get tested now. Sorry for the long post
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150689 tn?1333990045
Teak won't tell you anything I haven;t already. Nor would anyone esle who would post an answer to your question.
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Thanks for the response. There's no doubt I have a tremendous amount of guilt but the fact remains there's still uncertainty for me. While I'm thrilled that I tested neg I and would like to just take everyones advice and trust the test I can't when I continue to I've symptoms and my wife starts to have them. I would like to hear what
Teak has to say and then I think I'll be done talking about it until I hit 12 weeks negative.
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150689 tn?1333990045
Okay, most of what you are feeling is guilt - you were unfaithful. Deal with it. That the condom came off during sex (unusal if used correctly, but it happens) teachnically means you have had unprotected sex. I think you know whats coming next............

You need to have a full STI panel - not jsut for HIV but for the other more common and easily transmitted STI's. Here comes the tricky part; because you have had sex with your wife, after the event and I'm assuming you don't use protection with your wife, you have potentially put her at risk of STI's and possibly HIV. You're best best is to 'fess up, so that your wife can be tested as well.

You say you've had three HIV antibody tests @ 6,7 and 8 weeks which were all negative. Thats a good sign, however the cut off point from which you can be 100% you are negative is three months. Though I doubt very much that your 8 week negative will turn positive at 12 weeks.

Take home rule; If you can't do guilt, don't be unfatihful. But if you insit on having sex outside of your marrige then always use condoms.
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