Gay Man - Risk of Contraction

I am a gay man in a committed relationship.  While I am not HIV+, my partner is.  This is the first time (knowingly) I have been with someone who is positive.  I've never felt this way about anyone before, and we actually have plans to marry in the not-so-distant future.  When we first started having sex, we always used condoms.  Eventually, we stopped using them.  He has never ejaculated inside me (I am more or less the "bottom" in the relationship).  This is his background:

He has been positive for 19 or so years and everytime he has blood work done, he says it is not "detectable".  I know he takes one pill at night before bed (not too sure what the name of it is of the top of my head).  I am assuming it's a "weak" strain of the virus.  These are my questions:

1) If he is not "detectable", am I at risk for still contracting HIV?
2) If he ejaculates inside me, am I at risk for possible conversion?
3) I heard you would get flu like symptoms if you become positive, is this true?

I would appreciate any feedback on the above questions - thanks!

[Teak]

1. Yes
2. Yes
3. No

[LIZZIE LOU]

1...yes
2...c'mon now...are you for real?
3...maybe

[jhguy011]

HIV treatment reduces the risk of transmission in the event that a condom should fail, but best to have a belt and suspenders (i.e. HIV treatment and condoms).  Fearing HIV is not what Teak, Lizzie Lou, or anyone else is trying to make you do, but HIV has a lot of implications for your long-term health (and treatment is expensive).  For your health and longevity, you should use condoms.

[LIZZIE LOU]

dont dare speak for me.

this man needs to be afraid.  he has a partner, who is hiv+, who apparently has deceived him into believing that because his viral load is undetectable, it is "ok" to have unprotected sex.

[Teak]

Since you don't live with HIV and have to take ARV I would not expect anything less from you. If contracting HIV doesn't scare you, then you have your head stuck in the sand.

[argentineguy760]

peace and CONDOM love guys!!!

[jhguy011]

I said trying to scare people to change their behavior does not work.  That's all.  I didn't say anything about my own feelings.  I would never stop using condoms with someone who is HIV-positive, but telling someone to be afraid won't convince them if it hasn't already.

[Teak]

If it changes one person, that is one person that won't get infected. HIV is not a walk in the park by no means.

[No_Filter_Nick]

Um wow.  I was the one who chose to stop using the condoms, not him.  I am aware of the risks of transmission, but just wasn't too sure when someone is like "Magic Johnson" where they aren't detectable if they could still transmit it to you.  He's never ejaculated in me, so I am not worried.  I've always gotten tested every 6 months ever since I came out of the closet when I was 16.  I don't feel sick and haven't experienced any flu like symptoms, so I don't think I've been converted.  I was simply asking for feedback, not to be judged,,,

[Teak]

We don't do Magic Johson here. He's taking HAART and getting along well.

[LIZZIE LOU]

"i am aware of the risks of transmission"

so you think because he doesnt ejaculate in you that its impossible for you to get infected?

[cna341]

if you continue having unprotected sex with him you'll be HIV+ soon or late simple as that.with or without ejaculation ,detectable or not, risk is pretty much there for you as a receiver of anal sex.if you want to risk it then we can't do anything for you.continue your irrational behavior.

[cna341]

my advice to you stop having sex with him.test 3months after your last unprotected sex.even with protected sex there is 1% chance for condom failure if the condom breaks you will be at risk.