HELP! Immediate answer needed if possible.

Last night I met a man off-line (from a gay website).  Did dinner, talked etc.
Prior to having any kind of sexual activities with him I did ask him his HIV status. He did state he did not know, and the last time he was tested was nearly 2 years ago. I asked how many partners he had since then. He said about 6-7. I guess this is all a moot point for what I have to say:

Anyways, concerned about the following risk(s):
- He performed oral on me.  I did not perform oral on him.
- We made out all night long. Deep, longstanding French-kissing.
- MAJOR CONCERN: He was rubbing the tip of his penis around my anal area…and attempted to enter.  He did NOT get the tip of his penis in..but ALMOST made it inside. I then proceeded to say we need to use lube and condoms.  I have had anal fissures in the past,…and the last time I had anal sex was about a year ago.  He proceeded to put on the condom…entered inside…but then went flacid (a.k.a. “limp”). He pulled out..with the condom on. He said that "condoms and him do not mix".  Inside I was and am still freaking out. No ejaculation occurred at all during the night…from neither him nor me. Even during the oral sex.   Even if he were positive....is this a risk?
He agreed to get tested with me next week..since he said "I could use the support".

I know.  Stupid of me.

Do I need something called PEP I have been reading on different posts on here?
Please advise…I see that I many only have a limited time to get an answer..and I think this would be faster than writing to the doctors on here.

HELP!  And THANKS

[Teak]

You didn't have a risk.

[moron40]

may i might also add...

Since I had anal fissures in the past, I was wondering if any amount of pre-seminal fluids would be a HUGE risk for contracting HIV...since anal fissures are minor cuts around the rectal area.  Also...how deep must he have penetrated in order for this to have been a risk..if indeed there was one?   Sorry for pestering.  And a huge thanks to anyone who knows and answers.

[Teak]

No anal fissures did not increase your risk.

[moron40]

thanks to the person who has just answered.
May I ask also,  What circumstances would need to exist for him to have given HIV to me..if the fissures were significant. I do not think most ppl know what fissures are...and believe me..I would not wish them on my worst enemy.

gratitude...as always for responding

[moron40]

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU..

I see you answer a lot of posts.  Thanks for answering

[moron40]

Does the effectiveness of HIV rely on the semen?  meaning that this person would have had to ejaculate in me?   or does the presence of semen on the anal area pose a problem?

[moron40]

i am sorry. I am not saavy in areas related to health.  i do know about condoms and they do prevent the spread of HIV and other std's.  COuld someone instruct me on why this risk was not a ...how do they say it in your US "high risk"?

[joggen]

For it to be a risk he would have had to penetrate you UNPROTECTED, or vice versa.

HIV is only transmitted inside the body.

[moron40]

question follow-up...

If he were to have pre-seminal fluids come into contact with the anal area...which already had minor cuts due to fissures, would this still present a problem?  every now and then I see blood on toilet paper due to the fissures.

Also, I had read somewhere (and I cannot remember where), but I heard about something called "Receptor cells" for HIV.   Does anyone know if these "receptor cells" exist in the anal area?  And if so .where?  Though he had just barely penetrated me w/o the use of a condom...i am petrified of thinking the pre-seminal fluids would have infected me.  Would me using saliva on the tip of his penis have reduced the risk?  (I had licked my hand and then his penis before he tried to prod around down there.)

[ssgt]

there is very small amount of  hiv in saliva not in the amounts  it takes to infect and saliva damages the virus but if he penetrated you unprotected then you have a risk....

[moron40]

I appreciate your answer and all the answers I have received.  I decided to post to the Dr\.'s Forum  not b/c I do not believe anyone on here....just b/c this is really bothering me inside...and I feel that this is a major issue that needs to be addressed on a doctor level. Something I don't want to play around with.  

Thanks to All that have responded.

[moron40]

For anyone that is knowledgeable regarding anatomy:

IF ejaculation occured on the anal area (near the rectal opening) would this still pose as a HIV risk? I was curious to see exactly where the mucous membrane started in the anal area.  

[moron40]

BTW...thanks to those that did asnwer.  I see your answers did match the MD's on the other forum.  I just wanted reassurance.

[LIZZIE LOU]

transmission requires PENETRATION.

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[moron40]

If you do not know the answer...it is ok.  
No need to berate me with a copy-cut-paste.

Actually you are not correct.  You can contract HIV from need-sharing.
Thats not penetration of the anal or vaginal area.

[LIZZIE LOU]

WERE YOU ASKING ABOUT NEEDLE SHARING OR THE ANAL AREA?????

MOVE ON...

[moron40]

Will you PLEASE stop harassing me in my own post?  


If you do not know..I respect that.  But please do not TYPE IN CAPS..I find that threatening and rude.


Thanks

[Teak]

MOVE ON.

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[moron40]

Just forget that I asked.

I'll repost to MD's forum

[Teak]

You do that.