HELP ME PLEASE

[Mark567]

Hi guys, i really need your help...
On 1st Oct(last 2 days) i had unprotected vaginal sec with a girl whom i don't know her status is, and it was my first time in my life i had sex, so i'm sure i'm clean, she's a girl i just got to know. It happened so quickly, i didnt perform oral sex on her, she performed oral sex on me and then she rides me for less than 5 minutes and performed oral sex on me till i came on her mouth. I regret it, i looked up in the internet and found that you can contract HIV through a single exposure? Is that true? It's been only the 3rd day and my anxiety level is killing me, i always feel paranoid lost my appetite and i've been crying. It was my first time having sex and i dont want to get HIV from this exposure it will ruin my life i'm still a student and i'm just 19, please help anyone :'(... I have 2 questions

1.) Lets say she is HIV+, what are the percentage/probability/odds i can get transmitted from her?

2.) Should i be really worried? This anxiety is beyond my imagination it's killing my thoughts :'(

[Mark567]

Thanks for you replies, i really appreciate it but for now i got to wait :'( which is hard...

[Vance2335]

That has been answered

[Mark567]

Sorry for the spamming of questions, but from your point of view. What's my risk? :-(

[Vance2335]

We can't play the "what if" game, it does you no good and there can be 100 "what if" questions you ask.

[Mark567]

Anyone???

[Mark567]

One FINAL question please anyone,
I've heard people that had just got infected carries a higher risk to the partner(due to high viral load). Lets say she just got it, what are the percentage of it being transmitted? PLEASE ANYONE FINAL QUESTION, anyways shes 20 and i'm 19 :'( i kept asking her whether shes disease free or not non stop and she kept telling me no to a point she said its annoying that i always asked her but i dont even know her background sex lifes and all please guys i'm going to get tested on the 8th week and 3 month and 6 month, its only been afews days not even a week and i don't know how to cope with this anxiety i've been eating a little like really little everytime i eat i felt like puking and such :'(

[Mark567]

Alright i'll try to be less anxiety..... But the problem is when can i get tested for STDS? And HIV? Chances i'll get transmitted STDS?

[HowardH]

Re-read the replies from Dreejamba. Concentrate on them, believe them, and mellow out. If you need the additional reassurance of a lab test, feel free to be tested when the time comes.  It will be negative.

[Mark567]

Any other advices or suggestions guys? Please help me i'm very devastated :'(

[Mark567]

And to add, i asked one of my friends. He had the same situation as me(lost his virginity too with a unknown status stranger) and a month or 2 of exposure, he started to urine blood, he told me the feeling when you pee blood is quite spicy. Straight away he went to a nearby clinic and doctor gave meds. The doctor said its from an infection which potentially could be the exposure that caused it. But when i asked if he did any blood test to test for HIV or STD, he said no the urine test he performed earlier on detects all of them and only got urine infection. Is that true?

[Mark567]

Thanks i felt a lil bit relieved now.. After the exposure i felt very weak, lost in appetite and constantly thinking as if i'm already contracted. Are these caused by anxieties inside me because i'm frankly really worried like i'm still young and just because of one slip up i've ruined life, i don't want to disappoint my parents especially i love them very much to the end of earth :'(

[dreejamba]

Yes like I said very low risk. Unfortunately, not risk free. Do get tested just to be safe and put your mind at ease. You can test at the 6-8 weeks mark after your sexual encounter for all STDs. I am sure your results will be negative. You need to me more concerned about the anxiety; so relax and know that the odds are in your favor.  And next time always use a condom and practice safe sex.

[Mark567]

If the odds is 1:1000, i shouldn't be WORRIED at all and continue with life as per normal??? So i shouldnt get myself tested neccessarily? I'm sorry for the amount of questions it's just that i HAD never had sex before in my 19 years of living and i came to a realise about these.. I certainly learned my mistake as i felt very remorseful to what i've done is just pure disgusting and i can never forgive myself.. So it's safe to say i'm all clean?

[dreejamba]

Unprotected vaginal sex carries an average transmission chance of once for every 1,000 encounters, assuming the lady was HIV positive. Factor in that she most likely wasn't HIV positive and you will see that statistically the odds are tremendously in your favor.

[Mark567]

We had a one night stand i knew her from the internet so i don't know anything about this girl's status.. :-( the vaginal intercourse took around less than 5 minutes.. Assuming she is HIV positive and you said its very very low, can you give me clearer statistics about the odds/percentage of me being transmitted? I'm worried sick this is probably the most biggest mistake i've made :'( i cant help to think of this everyday minute..

[dreejamba]

first, how well do you know this girl? Her sexual history might tell you how much of a risk there is.  Most people are not HIV positive. Assuming she was HIV positive, your risk of contracting hiv from one single exposure is very very low. Unfortunately, your sex was unprotected so it was not risk free.  I wouldn't worry too much and for peace of mind get tested in 4-6 weeks.