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I did something really really really really stupid 2 months ago. (Sept 22, 2009)

I had an sexual encounter with a female on the 22nd of Sept.

I do not know how many other guys she has had encounters with in her past.

She engaged in unprotected oral sex on me for maybe close to 1 minute span. I didn't see any signs of bleeding. She state she doesn't have any cuts or sores on either. Again I don't know how many other encounters she had giving unprotected oral sex to.

We then progress to PROTECTED intercourse sex. No anal. She states that she always use protection during intercourse.

She then took off my condom and use baby oil as lube to give me a handjob. She used her mouth and wrap around the head of my penis to prevent my semen from spreading all over the place.

I had a long restless, unhappy days for the whole month of October and September worrying with extreme amount of anxiety and stress. This was the first time I ever had unprotected oral sex EVER!

I took a HIV oral test on Oct 23 (1 month duration from the encounter on Sept 22) and it was HIV NEGATIVE. The guy who assisted me with the test told me my chance of getting HIV through the mouth is low to none. I had called HIV hotlines numerous times and all them workers told me what am I worried about.

I understand HIV can be spread by blood, semen, or vaginal fluid. She isn't a lesbian so I know she can't contract HIV through vaginal fluid. It's the semen or blood other guys might have transmit to her without knowing that might transmit to me.

Same day I took my HIV test (Oct 23 and Oct 28) I went to see my urologist to check for bacteria in my urine. I'm clean. That eliminates gonorrhea or chlamydia.

Understanding that there is a window period where 97% of most people who are infected with HIV are tested HIV POSITIVE. I still have this month (November) and December for me to reach that 3 month period window.

Fortunately I was able to get a hold of her and she also went and took in the blood test.

We both are HIV/STD NEGATIVE. Both of our test was taken on the end of October.

My question is what is my chance and how worry I should be?

Right now my body isn't the best of feelings right now. I have been having diarrhea for over a month. Lost of appetite. Depressed. Stressed with lots of anxiety. I don't know if these are the symptoms of HIV acute infection that has been bugging me or that the stress I have put on my body has caused something like this to happen thinking that I'm actually sick.

I am so so so so so lost. I cannot imagine myself being HIV POSITIVE. I have a beautiful great great girlfriend I want to be with. I cannot imagine seeing myself carrying that stigma around me if I were to be sick. I just can't. I really salute to those who are carrying this infection/disease and is able to lift their head and live strong. I just can't. I just can't. Writing this far I am in absolute tears from this moment.
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You don't have an HIV concern.
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Taek,

Please do not ban me for I have a really good reason to re-post here on this thread.

I just been diagnosis with HPV on my anus.

My real true concern is getting HIV.

The last sexual encounter is still the same posted on this thread.

Now that I have contracted HPV, what are my chances of getting HIV even though I tested negative after 1 month/30 day duration?
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I've been getting this tightness around my throat area. Not sure if its sore throat or anything. I have no problem swallowing saliva or eating food.

Recalling that I wrapped my lips around her tongue and had a few few second of tongue action, can anything be passed on to me? I already know saliva cannot transmit HIV.
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not warranted
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Question: I have been getting mixed answers about whether to take another HIV test within December.

Despite the fact that my risk of HIV is nill to none would it be recommended to get tested on December which will be my 3 month window period?
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Quick update: I just receive my blood test result which was taken on Oct 21.

It's HIV Negative.
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You were never at risk of contracting HIV.
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Dear friend I dont understand what you are worried about really. Oralsex has almost zero risk, also you and the girl tested negative, assuming the worst case, the chances of her seroconvering and she tested during her window period is like a alien from space visiting you''' so there is no need to be too complaicent, its time to feel happy ,dont mince your mind .bye
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