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Hello,

My friend was involved with this man for 3 months and the last sexual act the condom broke. She tells she realized this after 3-5 minutes of the vaginal sex. She is too scared to communicate although i have encouraged her to go online and read posts. this happened a year and a half ago and now she has itching inside her chest, sore throat, some fatique and PANIC! What are the risks? this was a one time affair. After reading the postings on this site i got some education on hiv transmission and she tells me there was no semen ejaculated on her, only precum. PLEASE HELP HER SOMEBODY!
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Just ignore westxrr. He doesn't know the first thing about HIV assessment, transmission or testing.
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nursegirl6572,
it seems that you have a thing for getting the last word in.  To be fair to the creator of this thread, this will be my last post on this thread.  You will reply by saying that you don't need to get the last word in ... blah blah blah.  But your reply alone will prove me right.

Suzy180_,
One of your posts says your friend is "SCARED AS HELL"... and this has been for 1.5 years!!!  Your friend can't keep doing this to herself.  Please convince her to get tested and move forward with her life.  Helping her face her fears and realize she does NOT have hiv will do more for her than I can put in words.
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417144 tn?1225959248
So far, Teak has yet to 'attack' me for suggesting someone to take test.  I think the reason is that I do not suggest testing unless it is a real exposure.
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480448 tn?1426948538
That is YOUR situation and by NO means the norm around here.  If you would read thru the threads...you'd be astonished at how many posters come back over and over 3+ months, 6 months, 1 yr, 2 yrs.....after a ZERO risk exposure.

I'm glad testing put your mind at ease...but please consider that that simply isn't the case for most....just the mere SUGGESTION to test translates in the anxious mind that they NEED to test b/c there was a risk...and the anxiety cycle continues.

I understand that you think you are being helpful...but that isn't the case.
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480448 tn?1426948538
Your post is absolutely out of line.  Teak isn't "attacking" anyone...he is simply telling you...along with several of us...that you have to be VERY careful handing out careless advice in a forum like this.....all it does is create hysteria among the already hysterical...do you view that as helpful?

You have suggested people test for ZERO risk exposures...unlike this thread where someone DID have an exposure (albeit a small one)....totally different.

Please don't make things worse for people already anxiety ridden.  ZERO risk situations do not require testing period....and sadly...even the logic "go get tested to relieve your mind" does not work....as sooo many people end up tesing constantly...and feeding their irrational HIV Phobias....living in fear and torturing themselves for YEARS.

NOT to mention an anxiety ridden person will read a post that you made..."go and test for your own peace"...as "go and get tested, you had a risk".  That is anxiety for you.

FEAR and Anxiety over HIV is WAY bigger an epidemic than HIV itself.
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417144 tn?1225959248
Hi there,

The chances for HIV infection in your friend incident is low.  I would suggest she do a test since the incident was like 1.5 years ago.  A test at this time would be conclusive.

Her sypmtoms are not HIV related, it sound more like symptoms of stress and anxiety.

Cheers!
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duckie984,
I completely agree with you.  Be careful, Teak is attacking people for encouraging others to get tested!

suzy180_,
I'm sure your friend doesn't have anything to worry about.  She should just get tested and expect a negative.
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Thats my point: getting tested. But, she is SCARED AS HELL! What are the risks?
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WHEN I  ASKED HER SHE SAID 5 YEARS AGO WHEN SHE HAD HER LAST CHILD AND EVER SINCE SHE HAS BEEN USING CONDOMS ALL THE TIME
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My advice to friend to go with her to Planned Parenthood to get tested. They offer rapid hiv test, and gives you results in 10-20 minutes. They are very accurate. Any unprotected sex puts you at risk for hiv and other sexual transmitted diseases. The CDC  states that hiv antibodies develop by 3 months but in rare cases it can take up to six months. I hope this helps, you can go to the cdc website for more information. Just symptoms won't tell her that she might have hiv, only a blood test can tell her.

Good Luck
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Has she asked this man about his HIV status?  Chances are he's clean.  Even if he wasn't, the situation you describe is very low risk.  I don't think she should have anything to worry about.  Just curious, when is the last time your friend got tested?
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