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HIV Vaginal Intercourse risk. I am feeling sick like flu..

Hi guys,

I did something stupid like most people on here. I am a 26 year old man, and I had unprotected vaginal intercourse with a 24 year college student, she is a Hispanic female I met in a club in Hollywood, CA.

The first encounter was just kissing, and we used protection, intercourse lasted about ten minutes. October 18, 2014
The second encounter was the riskier one. We had unprotected sex, she was on top, this lasted for about 2 minutes. She asked me to put on a condom. We then proceeded to put on the condom. This encounter lasted about 2 hours of sex. October 26, 2014.

A little history on her, I first saw her kissing a friend of mine in the club, we were very drink at the time of the first encounter, ironically this was the safer one.

The second one was more planned, but we didn't use protection for the first part of the intercourse. I don't know much about her, except she was involved with her ex-boyfriend and had a felony charge because of drugs, I also know she is part Mexican. She is on parole, goes to school, and uses marijuana, and she has tattoos.

I'm worried about this encounter, because fast forward to November 18, 2014. I started to feel a little sick, loss of energy, sore throat, muscle fatigue, fever.  I also developed a small bump near my lip, which I'm trying to figure out if it's a herpes attack.

I went to the Nurse Practitioner today, she looked at the bump and thinks it's an ingrown hair, i'm still watching it because it flares up whenever it comes into contact with liquids, almost as if it's multiple bumps in one.

Back to HIV, before this encounter, I had done a recent screening which confirmed by Negative result, but now I'm worried. Did I **** everything up?


The Nurse recommended, I do 3 screenings: one at 3 months, 6 months and at the end of the year. The first screening is scheduled for January. She checked for swollen lymph nodes, but could not detect them. She said I'm at risk of HIV even with 1 second of exposure.

What can I do until then? I have attempted to call the girl but she has not been responsive to my texts and calls for the last couple of weeks.

Someone please help me.
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Try to not get to worked up. Heterosexually transmitted HIV in North America is exceedingly rare. First, only 1.1 million people, out of a population of 310 million are HIV+. That is .04%. The odds that your partner was HIV+ are very low. Second, HIV transmission from an HIV+ female to male is quite inefficient and mostly only happens to long term partners of positive females. All things considered, the odds of a healthy male obtaining HIV from a one-time unprotected vaginal sex episode with a partner of unknown status is 1 in a million.
The quickest and most logical thing to do at this point to help ease your anxiety is to try and contact your partner. If she is willing to test, or even better, knows her status, then you are probably in the clear.
All things considered, I would still recommend a full STD screening. Not just for HIV, but for more common STDs such as Chlamydia and Gonorrhea. You can test for most bacterial STDs at about 7 days post exposure. At 4 weeks you can test for HIV with a DUO test for conclusive results. If this test is unavailable in your area, a 4 week blood drawn test will give you 95% accuracy. This test would require a FINAL antibody only test(oral or instant) at 12 weeks for a conclusive result.
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Symptoms mean nothing. The only thing you can do at this point is try and relax and to get tested at the appropriate window period.If you continue to experience excessive anxiety, this forum will not be able to assist you. I would suggestion searching out professional psychological help in your area.
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Thanks for the reply AK, day 3 I was feeling a little better until I climbed in bed.

I've been reading Jung before bedtime so what I'm about to say  might sound strange.

I had a bad dream I was being chased or followed around almost in a forced serial easy by this woman and man, who've been soo modified they almost look plastacine, their skin is falling off etc. It was scary. I usually don't have bad dream to this extent.

My symptoms are still persistent, started sneezing, woke up with a massive headache, some fever and sweats..

:(
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Nope
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anything i can do now?
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The nurse you saw is not very educated with HIV. A test at 8 weeks will be fine. Your risk is a risk but on the lower side of risks.
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