On one hand, you had some high risk exposures; HIV is quite common in at least some Indonesian sex workers. On the other hand, congratulations for being wise enough to have safe sex. Condoms work and oral sex carries little or no risk for HIV.
The rates of HIV are high among some Indonesian commercial sex workers; I just saw a report of 5% (1 in 20) being positive. But that means it is most likely your partners did not have HIV. And as I said, condoms work and oral sex really isn't an important concern with respect to HIV transmission. Finally, a negative HIV test 3-4 weeks after exposure is reassuring; most newly infected people, but not all, would have positive results by that time. To be maximally certain, you also should be tested 6-8 weeks after the last exposure, i.e. around the second week of November. You can expect negative results.
Your symptoms are meaningless. Even when HIV symptoms are classical (which yours are not), the identical symptoms are caused much more often by minor illnesses of various sorts. But your symptoms don't sound like HIV anyway, and they came on too late; HIV symptoms generally start 1-2 weeks after catching the virus.
Bottom line : "totally stressed" is an overreaction. It is very unlikely you caught HIV. But have another test in about 2 weeks to be even more certain.
Regards-- HHH, MD
That will be all on this thread, unless I am still misunderstanding the nature of the exposure. Take care and stop worrying about this.
You came to the forum for reassurance. I gave it. Accept it or not, I don't care, but please don't argue with it.
This thread is over. I won't have any further comments.