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HIV scared

by Javier555, Jul 21, 2009 07:11PM

My name is Javier. I am 21 years old. About almost 3 months ago i had a sexual activity with a commercial sexual partner (woman). I put my condom for oral sex and also during sexual activity. I guess i did everything right since the begining. But when i finish, she stand out of me and i realized that i did not have the condom on me. I told her and she  
look on her and she had the condom on her vagina. I guess my condom slipped when she stand out of me. But i actually do not know if i made any contact. But I weared my condom during all sexual activity and that happened at the end and that is my doubt. What could be the risk of getting HIV from this experience. So since then for the last 2 and a half months I've been feeling a lot of anxiety, i mean A LOT. I vomit, i cannot sleep well. I feel very stress out and anxious about that experience. After 36 days, aprox 5 weeks later after that experience a did a HIV test which came back negative and i also did a test for sifilis gonorreha, etc. all of them came back negative and i also did a CBC test which came back everything normal. But i don't know for the last 2 and a half months i've had few common colds, sore throats, and few headaches that my doctor said it is an allergy and with a couple of lymphs nodes palpable . I dont know if this is HIV or just anxiety.

So doctor can you please tell me what can i do about this situation. Should i move on and do not need to do another hiv test? does my symptoms are because of my anxiety?. Please help me doctor . This is a very worry situation for me. and what is the risk that i have of HIV for the experience that i just described?

by H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D., Jul 21, 2009 07:27PM
Welcome to the HIV forum.  I'll try to help.

You are overreacting to a non-risk situation.  You had protected vaginal sex; pulling the penis out of the condom, while the condoms remains in the vagina, does not mean the sex was unprotected.  And probably your partner doesn't have HIV anyway.  Finally and most important, your negative HIV test result at 5 weeks (36 days) is almost 100% proof you did not catch HIV.  To be even more certain, you could have another test any time after 6-8 weeks.  You can expect a negative result.

As for your symptoms, they don't sound like those of acute HIV infection.  And whenever a person suspects his own symptoms are due to anxiety, usually he is correct.  So anxiety seems like a good possibility.

Have another HIV test if you remain worried. But in the meantime, settle down. Almost certainly you did not catch HIV.

Best wishes--  HHH, MD
Member Comments (5)

by Javier555, Jul 22, 2009 11:32AM
To: H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.
Ok doctor I feel now with alot less anxiety of what you told me. But my only question is if for this experience is really necesary to have another HIV. Because it cost me money and i am not sure if is really neccessary to repeat another test if you told me it was a non-risk exposure. Should i move on and forget about doing another test?

by H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D., Jul 22, 2009 12:13PM
You don't need another HIV test.

by Javier555, Jul 25, 2009 07:43PM
To: H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.
Doctor. I really feel very worried. I cannot stop my anxietty about this. I feel swollen lymphs nodes on my neck, i have a lot of headaches. I feel a node in my throat. Really Doctor, what do you think of my experience?. please help me. Does an HIV for 5 weeks after exposure is reliable?. Please Doctor help me i am turning crazy right now. is very stress

by H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D., Jul 26, 2009 11:26PM
I have nothing more to say.  Given how irrationally frightened you are despite such powerful evidence you do not have HIV, you clearly need professional mental health care.  This forum is not a substitute for that.  I deleted your attempt at starting a new thread.  Do not try again and do not post any more comments on this thread.
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