HIV without actually having sex?

I recently had sexual contact, but not intercourse, with a guy I was dating.  For the most part, he was touching himself and touching me, but there was some brief contact between genitals.  I now have herpes, and when I talked to my doctor she said I should also be tested for HIV.  What are the chances of getting HIV without actually having sex involving penetration?  And am I correct in thinking that I need to wait three months from date of contact to get an accurate test result?  And is there any specific test I should be asking for?  Any help in this matter would be greatly appreciated!  

[LIZZIE LOU]

transmission requires penetration

[LIZZIE LOU]

this is something that ALWAYS amazes me..."why" ppl want to argue about the testing guideline.  

[Teak]

3 months is the guidelines and there are no tests marketed or approved to give a conclusive negative test any earlier.

[TommieB]

Thanks, Lizzie Lou and Teak, for your answers to my original question :)

[TommieB]

I've got another query.  I went back to the gynocologist this past Wednesday (the 23rd) for a yeast infection that is not responding to treatment, and discussed some other symptoms I've been experiencing for the past few weeks as well: a sore throat that won't quit, odd rashes on thighs, upper body, and scalp, a mild case of thrush, joint pain in shoulders, and extreme fatigue to the point where I can barely stay awake even after a good night's rest.  She said that these could be the early signs of an HIV infection, even though there was no penetration: she continued to say that if the penis comes into contact with the vagina, even externally, there is the possibility of transmission.  What do you think?  I will be tested, of course, but I'd appreciate hearing any further info anyone can give me.  Many thanks.  

[LIZZIE LOU]

your doctor is WRONG.

once again...transmission requires penetration

[Realness22]

they say symptoms of HIV don't show until 10 years later is that correct or can you recieve symptoms sooner and how soon?

[Teak]

Stay in your own thread and quit hijacking other's threads.