I guess I don't understand why you imagine that my assessment of your exposure would be any different than any of the many others on hand jobs. But here goes:
No risk, period. Nobody ever got HIV or any other STD by a hand job, with the possible exception of HPV. Therefore, your symptoms cannot possibly be due to that exposure. You did not need HIV/HIV testing and certainly do not need further testing.
No "yes but" or "what if" follow-up quesitons. There is nothing you can add that would change my opinion or advice.
HHH, MD
The only risk here is the wife/gf finding out.
I admit, I am very inexperienced and unknowlegable about this subject area. I am simply being conscientious. Thats why i want to post my question.