Have I infected my wife?

[Possible??]

I know by now most of you are tired of seeing my posts on this forum, but this is the only thing keeping me from doing something drastic.

For those that have not read my other posts, I had a girl at a hostess bar catch me offgaurd a few times and she took a drink of alcohol (saki) and from her mouth spit it dirrectly into mine. I swallowed a couple mouth fulls in total. My concern is she could of had blood in her mouth and along with the alcohol and saliva, it could have gotten into mine.

3 days after this I began having every symptom known to be related to HIV (white painless bumbs on lips, rash on scrotum, possible fever). 9 weeks later, the rash on scrotum is almost gone, but the white bumps on lips are still there and have not changed. Also in the last few weeks I have developed sore armpits and a sore neck (could this be swollen lymph nodes?)

I was feeling better about the situation from everyone that had told me I had low risk or no risk for HIV or any other STD.

However, 5 days ago I had sex with my wife and 3 days after that she developed the same white bumps. Then the following night felt sick and threw up.

I am so scared that I have given her HIV or some other STD and have ruined the lives of my wife and daughters.

It seems like the timing, symptoms and the fact she obvoiusly got this from me that it can only be HIV or some other STD.

Please help! Is there any way this is not HIV or an STD. I am not sure if a can continue.......

[plummy]

This may sound a bit harsh, but why don't you just go and get tested?  You keep asking for assurances on this board, but they clearly don't help you.  

If you really are worried about any sort of communicable disease not getting tested will not alter the result.  I mean to say, if there is some sort of infection, you are still going to pass it on even if you don't want to know the truth.

I agree with the board that it does not sound like you are at risk for HIV.  

However you may want to see a doctor to figure out what's up with the rash and the spots.  Especially if your wife now has them.  It could well be some sort of allergy that you could get rid of if you would seek medical care.

[Possible??]

the girl was Asain.

The thing I think everyone is overlooking is that she did not just take a drink from my glass, she put the contents in her mouth and then spit is right from her mouth into mine.

This has me concerned because whatever was in her mouth (including blood if it was present) would have ended up in my mouth.

Is everyone still positive that HIV could not be tranmitted this way?

[Wear/a/Jimmy]

PS

I just had another thought, was this girl Asian? Was she native Asian?  I ask because culturally what may have seen as wierd, or shocking to you that she would drink out of your glass....   well that is what Asians do. They just do that without a thought. Asains swap germs like crazy. Then you have the Indians that still to this day eat off of the same plate with their hands.

So like I said, if saliva was a good medium for HIV transmission, half the world would be dead already.

[Wear/a/Jimmy]

My friend, your fears are unfounded.

First saliva is not healthy for HIV, in fact it has elements within it that kill HIV. Basically if anything she spit a viscous HIV killing liquid into you Saki. Think of it that way. If anything, you should think of at as a term of endearment.

White spots on lips....  not sure of what that is, but I have never heard of it as an indecation of HIV.

70% of all people that suffer ARS/HIV have a rash... but not on their scrotum, heck women do not even have a scrotum in the first place. From what I have read, the rash occurs on the trunk or upper areas of the body.

You have not suffered all the symptoms known speficly for ARS, in fact you have suffered symptoms that do not apply. Kind of like if I stubbed my toe...  and trired to blame it on ARS, or underwent a hunger pain and blamed it on ARS.


I don't want to be rude, but there are tons of folks out there that would love to have your suposed risk level.....

AlSO think of something else, essentially entire Asian hemisphere eat with chopsticks and eat off of the same plate. Those folks are continously sharing some amount of saliva, large or small every day. If people could contract HIV through saliva.....   all of Asia would be barren by now.  

So cheer up, maybe your wife threw up becasue she is pregnant?

[Wear/a/Jimmy]

If she just had her wisdom teeth removed 30 minutes prior to doing that, possibly.  Otherwise....  

It is my non-medical opinion.... NO WAY


Besides, if she was bleeding profously due to dental/oral issues, I don't think she would be at work.

If you want, get tested to relieve your anxiety...  but don't go tell your wife just yet.  

YOU ARE FINE, you are lucky by nature, and in this situation, you do not even need luck to beat this problem.

There was no risk, you are good... go get your test to put your mind at rest.

[peekawho]

I didn't overlook that info.  No, HIV cannot be transmitted that way.  It is primarily a sexually transmitted disease, and a needle-borne disease.  You did not have sex, in any way, shape or form.  You did not share a needle with an infected person.  You are not an infant born to an HIV positive woman.

You have nothing to worry about, but I'm sure you will anyway.  

[Teak]

Seek mental health help. You've been told over and over again that you did not have a risk.