Thanks for the feedback and support. I have an appointment with a Rheumatologist and will be tested. I'll update this page once I hear more.
You should be tested to rule it out, but the symptoms you have could be attributed to any number of diseases. If you are still in contact with your other partners, you should also ask them if/when they were last tested for HIV.
I have RA and "think" I might have HIV.
This is where the problem actually starts from, you are "thinking". Don't guess, you need to know. HIV can't be guessed from symptoms and moreover, your symptoms are too unspecific to HIV. Indeed, you have put your self in to risk by unprotected sex with multiple partners. However, as my friend above has already told you that it's a good sign that your wife has tested negative. So, go out there, get that test and "Know" it instead of "Guessing" it. At this point any test including rapid is good to determine, just take one.
Good luck!
Go and get tested and put your mind at ease.Its a good sign that your wife is negative,but you need to find out your status.