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Help Please!
Hi there i was wondering if anybody could answer my needs as i am extremely worried .its a long story but i would MUCH appreciate it if somebody could help answer my q which could help me overcome anxiety ( for the time being).
Here Goes....
around 4-5 months ago i slept with i a girl i had met online without using a condom. i am a 22 yr old man and she was 20 yr olds. she was perfectly normal however after sleepign with her she phoned about a week later to say she had herpes and wasnt sure if she caught them off me. around several weeks later i noticed several red marks on the top of my penis. so instantly i though i had contracted the disease. i then went to the clinic but by that time the spots had dissappeared so the doctor said she cudnt take a swab unless the marks were there. i did though get tested for other stds all of which came back negative.
So i thought nothing of it until the red spots came back even more but i couldnt get to a clinic because where i live it only runs once a week and i had just missed the day it was held. ever since ive had two or three herpes outbreaks but at the present i havent any symptoms at all. BUT here comes the scary part.
Three weeks ago exactly i got drunk out my mind because i was out celebrating and then i woke up the next day rather horny so i bought a paper and phoned one of the numbers attached within them to seek sex ( what a mistake never again i am mortified at myself) a women answered saying tht wud be fine ( this was not the actual escort). she said it was 10 pound door entry then 60 pound for a mssage and oral and full sex. i asked if it was safe and she said it was. however at this time i had sores present on my penis like the possible herpes ones i seen before and i want to make tihs potn as i heard having stds increases ur chances vastly of catching HIV.
So stupidly i arrived at this flat and i gave the woman 10pounds ( she was elderly) and i was directed to this room in which i waited in until the hooker came in. she was a women in her early 40s. she didnt look like a drug addict i.e she was quite fat but not too fat but since she was a hooker from a poor area ( she told me where she stayed) im presuming she may have had HIV. but anywayz i lay down on the bed i got a mssage and then she performed unproctected oral sex on me and open mouth kissing. i did notice though tht whilst this was going on she noticed my psoriasis on my leg and tended to avoid this area ( i only mentioned this due to this conception of hiv beign transmitted through cuts). nevertheless i received unprotected oral sex for around 5mins then i asked for full sex (why did i do this!) but she then produced a condom out of her stockings and put in on my penis fully. so i then had porected sex with her for around a few mins until i came but i did though keep going after this, and i mentioned ihad came to her only after a few mins and she said " well u better pull out incase it bursts" so i pulled out and that was that i cleaned myself with a babywipe then left.
Now comes the concerns...
(1) because i was drunk i cant remember if the condom may have teared slightly, but im guessing it didn't what would the chances of hiv be if it did?
(2) now three weeks later i have developed an extremely bad cough and chest pains accompanied by fever and night sweats and also had vomiting and diarrhea (but this has only happened twice).
every time i go to sleep i burn up and every time i go to get fresh i air i go cold. i went to doctors but he said i have received a virus which has made my cough occur and that this dry cough is only present in my chest and not my lungs. . now i am feared in case this is the start of hiv because i read the flu like symptoms occur from 2-12 weeks after infection hoever do dry coughs occur in the early phase of HIV i have read mixed opinion on this (as some people have said they do others day it occurs in the latter stages).
Nevertheless i dotn have any enlarged lympths on groin, throat, etc which i am hoping is a gd sign.
Notably i was out 2 days before thr symptoms occurred drinking alcohol outside ( which i know lowers ur resistance) and also smoking cannabis which made my coughing fits more frequent and sorer. A few of my friends have also contracted cold viruses ( i am 99% sure they havent got hiv sicne they have never used prositututes) and i did think i may have got something off them however the wrid thing is my cough is dry and i have no runny nose watsoever. So now i am thinking along the lines of HIV and if that was the case it would devastate me which i feel owuld lead to suicide so it would be much appreciated if anybody could give me some advice on what my chances of having hiv are especially if i had herpes present on my penis.
i am going for a test next week also ( that will be 3weeks 6days) so will this be effective if possible symptoms are showing just now?
Here Goes....
around 4-5 months ago i slept with i a girl i had met online without using a condom. i am a 22 yr old man and she was 20 yr olds. she was perfectly normal however after sleepign with her she phoned about a week later to say she had herpes and wasnt sure if she caught them off me. around several weeks later i noticed several red marks on the top of my penis. so instantly i though i had contracted the disease. i then went to the clinic but by that time the spots had dissappeared so the doctor said she cudnt take a swab unless the marks were there. i did though get tested for other stds all of which came back negative.
So i thought nothing of it until the red spots came back even more but i couldnt get to a clinic because where i live it only runs once a week and i had just missed the day it was held. ever since ive had two or three herpes outbreaks but at the present i havent any symptoms at all. BUT here comes the scary part.
Three weeks ago exactly i got drunk out my mind because i was out celebrating and then i woke up the next day rather horny so i bought a paper and phoned one of the numbers attached within them to seek sex ( what a mistake never again i am mortified at myself) a women answered saying tht wud be fine ( this was not the actual escort). she said it was 10 pound door entry then 60 pound for a mssage and oral and full sex. i asked if it was safe and she said it was. however at this time i had sores present on my penis like the possible herpes ones i seen before and i want to make tihs potn as i heard having stds increases ur chances vastly of catching HIV.
So stupidly i arrived at this flat and i gave the woman 10pounds ( she was elderly) and i was directed to this room in which i waited in until the hooker came in. she was a women in her early 40s. she didnt look like a drug addict i.e she was quite fat but not too fat but since she was a hooker from a poor area ( she told me where she stayed) im presuming she may have had HIV. but anywayz i lay down on the bed i got a mssage and then she performed unproctected oral sex on me and open mouth kissing. i did notice though tht whilst this was going on she noticed my psoriasis on my leg and tended to avoid this area ( i only mentioned this due to this conception of hiv beign transmitted through cuts). nevertheless i received unprotected oral sex for around 5mins then i asked for full sex (why did i do this!) but she then produced a condom out of her stockings and put in on my penis fully. so i then had porected sex with her for around a few mins until i came but i did though keep going after this, and i mentioned ihad came to her only after a few mins and she said " well u better pull out incase it bursts" so i pulled out and that was that i cleaned myself with a babywipe then left.
Now comes the concerns...
(1) because i was drunk i cant remember if the condom may have teared slightly, but im guessing it didn't what would the chances of hiv be if it did?
(2) now three weeks later i have developed an extremely bad cough and chest pains accompanied by fever and night sweats and also had vomiting and diarrhea (but this has only happened twice).
every time i go to sleep i burn up and every time i go to get fresh i air i go cold. i went to doctors but he said i have received a virus which has made my cough occur and that this dry cough is only present in my chest and not my lungs. . now i am feared in case this is the start of hiv because i read the flu like symptoms occur from 2-12 weeks after infection hoever do dry coughs occur in the early phase of HIV i have read mixed opinion on this (as some people have said they do others day it occurs in the latter stages).
Nevertheless i dotn have any enlarged lympths on groin, throat, etc which i am hoping is a gd sign.
Notably i was out 2 days before thr symptoms occurred drinking alcohol outside ( which i know lowers ur resistance) and also smoking cannabis which made my coughing fits more frequent and sorer. A few of my friends have also contracted cold viruses ( i am 99% sure they havent got hiv sicne they have never used prositututes) and i did think i may have got something off them however the wrid thing is my cough is dry and i have no runny nose watsoever. So now i am thinking along the lines of HIV and if that was the case it would devastate me which i feel owuld lead to suicide so it would be much appreciated if anybody could give me some advice on what my chances of having hiv are especially if i had herpes present on my penis.
i am going for a test next week also ( that will be 3weeks 6days) so will this be effective if possible symptoms are showing just now?
Sorry, you were NOT that drunk- you described your encounter in (completely unneeded) VIVID detail...your anxiety is making you second guess things.
And HIV is not transmitted through oral sex, at least to any degree that people need to worry about.
See your GUM clinic for proper testing for the REAL risk you had- your first encounter.
We are done with this discussion.
And HIV is not transmitted through oral sex, at least to any degree that people need to worry about.
See your GUM clinic for proper testing for the REAL risk you had- your first encounter.
We are done with this discussion.
thanks mate i really do appreciate it but i was still drunk when it all happened and my concern mainly lies in the fact that i cant remember if it fell of or not. also cause i had sores on my penis would this not pave open access for any blood to be transferred from her to me as according to the reputable aids sites there has been cases of hiv beign transmitted through oral sex.
You would have known if the condom broke or slipped off. Your symptoms are not related to HIV.
i appreciate what your saying mate, but just in case the condom slipped off or ubrst during sex (without me noticing) i am finding it weird how after 3weeks i have contracted flu like symptoms notably fever n dry chest cough without the more normal symptoms such as blocked up nose and guattargh which all my friends have got.
You were only at risk from your first episode (unprotected). You can test at 3 months for a conclusive result.
If you post here again, leave all the extraneous information concerning your sex adventures out of your post. This isn't Hustler.com
If you post here again, leave all the extraneous information concerning your sex adventures out of your post. This isn't Hustler.com
To be honest i am no expert but i if ur trying to say theres no risk then i would defintely disagree i do have i a degree so i aint stupid. but if there is no risk then i would like to see you write that not give me a really vague unconvincing answer. i came on this forum for help not to be dismissed. sorry if appear angry but all i want is a simple yes or no and i wont come on the forum again. ill even delete my post if thats what you want.
so your saying i could have something? please help i really at end of tether! much appreciated mate cheers.
i dont know what you mean? like is my english poor because if it is i am sorry i am just a bag or nerves just now and wanting to get some answers, i apologise if the story is long but i just want answers and that is why i provided so much detail. term " moving on " doesnt do anything for me. im pleading with u. do u think i could have got hiv? im finding it weird how i have a fever and dry cough.
can u help me out teak mate i dont know what u mean by that comment. please explain i am on verge of breakdown!
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