Hi - I went to a party Wednesday night and as the night wore on it devolved into a gangbang party. That's not my scene, I have never done group sex or even not used condoms unless Im in a long term relationship. But for some reason this turned me on.
There were probably 10 guys there and 4 women participating. Almost all of the guys were going bareback. Not ejaculating in the women. Two guys were African American, which I bring up because that group seems to have a higher risk of hiv.
I got the impression that some of the participants had done this before. I don't know if the girls had done this before or not. No idea about their history.
I'm ashamed to admit it but I participated. I'm telling it like it happened because I want the most accurate advice.
I lay on the bed with the one girl I wanted to be with. I had a condom in my hand and was getting ready to put it on. The girl straddled me and put my penis inside her before the condom was on. She bounced on me once or twice. I pushed her off of me because I was furious and upset that she didn't let me get the condom on, she rubbed against me and I ejaculated outside her body. I got up, put my clothes on, urinated, washed myself off. Washed my hands. Left. My contact in her was very short - we are talking 20 seconds max - although I know any contact can result in infection.
Today, which was less than 48 hours from contact. I went to the ER after reading about PEP. The doctor told me it was my choice but seemed to tell me the odds are pretty low that this would result in HIV. Herpes, chlamydia, ghonorrea, HPV yes. But HIV risk was relatively low considering there was no blood, and it was vaginal and not anal.
I think he said the odds were something like 1/100 of the girl having it, and 1/5000 of me catching it if she had it, for a total of 1/500000. I assume that me being in her a short time lowers those odds a little. And I assume there could have been factors that increased them somewhat too.
So I left without PEP.
Right now I'm a little over 48 hours since contact. Around 10pm on the 4th of July is 72 hours. I can get up early and return to the ER and ask to be put on PEP if I change my mind. That would be before 60 hours.
I know it's late, and I hope someone will still be up,to answer....but does anyone have any advice on what to do? I know that it's ultimately up to me. The doctor checked my lymph nodes and they weren't swollen. I woke up,with my neck hurting on one side but the dr was unconcerned and didn't feel any swollen glands there. I know I'm HIV negative, as I regularly give blood and haven't had any partners for a while. Plus I religiously use condoms.
Anyway thanks for your help. This was a one off thing. I've read about people with chronic unsafe sexual habits who are on PEP every other month. That's not me. I can't explain why I did what I did but I know it was so stupid on a number of levels, despite my intention of using a comdom. It happened so fast, there were people watching, that the girl caught me by surprise to be honest with u. I was not happy. And I've been freaking out since. Very ashamed.
Thanks in advance for any help.
Take care.