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Hiv risk. Anxiety is killing me. :'(

I had a csw at a massage parlor give me protected oral. During that I briefly rubbed her clit for about 20 seconds. Right after with that same hand I then touched her breast for another 20 or so seconds. Then directly after that, I used that same finger that touched her clit and breast to rub the outside of my anus.

I have a girlfriend and I regret this so much and the anxiety that I caught hiv is killing. Am I worried about nothing? How risky is what I did?
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I know anxiousnomore already responded to my question. But I was wondering if teak or Lizzie or any of the other experts had any input on my situation.. I know you guys might hate me for not letting it go but I would seriously lose it if I put my girlfriend at ANY risk for my stupidity..

The lady at the massage parlor had the condom already in hand and out the package when she came into the room. That also worries me that she might have transferred something from her hand into the condom before rolling it onto my penis..

Please don't be upset by my follow up question. I just hate myself right now..

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No one here is going to give you a different answer apart from "no risk."  Teak and Lizzie Lou haven't been posting here in years.  However, the staff here do not allow posts with inaccurate information to stay up, so this is the best answer you'll get.

As an adult, the only risk behaviors for HIV are:
1) having unprotected, penetrative vaginal or anal sex, or
2) sharing IV drug needles with other IV drug users.

If you do not do either of those things, you will never have to worry about HIV.   Nothing else that you can think of, even if you add various "what if" scenarios, is a risk for HIV.  

You had NO RISK for HIV and you do not need to test.
Hey curfew,

I just read through your journal post about HIV. I truly appreciate you commenting here as a follow up with me and being so kind about it. I also really appreciate your journal post, it was great. Anyone who is worried like me and can't get their head straight should really go read curfews journal post. It may be that something you need right now.. I may look into therapy because I clearly worry about things I shouldn't worry about even after being told not to worry..

Bless all of you.. the one good thing that I got out of this whole horrible situation is that it caused me to re-evaluate my life and the choices I make. I feel like I may have dodged a bullet here, and because of that, I am going to live a more healthy life and do whatever I can to be an all around good person to everything and everyone. My days of being a selfish prick are behind me. People like you all do so much to ease the minds and help people like me, and the least I can do is pay it forward. I hope you guys truly understand how much your words and advice mean to us. <3
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HIV is inactivated in saliva and air and all your activities are classified as oral or air so you had zero risk. No one got it from oral or air in history so no need to talk to your girlfriend about it either since there is zero risk.
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I truely appreciate your assessment of the situation. And to be honest, I manned up to my mistake and told my girlfriend about it because I would never want to put her at risk for my stupidity. She is the best and is willing to try and work it out. She asked that I go get tested for HIV and stds because of this encounter, so I agreed because I would do anything to make this right(hence the name).

I've lost 10 pounds in a week and a half because of all the anxiety I have had. Hopefully now I can move on thanks to your response.

If anyone else ever wants to follow up here with advice or anything of the sort, feel free. I could use all the reassurance I can get right now.. I may also seek counseling for my anxiety over all of this.

Thanks again AnxiousNoMore and bless all of you on this forum that are here to help people such as myself.
There is no reason for anxiety now that you know the reality.Anxiety is not a disease so it will disappear immediately if you accept the science.
There is an std forum for that. If you can't accept the HIV science one option is to get therapy instead of taking a useless test.
I understand. Thanks. The std thing was just me sharing my story. Sorry about that. Take care  
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