Get therapy by yourself, and confess only to the therapist. You will not help your husband at all by telling him of your indiscretion. Though you will feel better if you tell him, it will probably destroy his life as he knows it. You will also give him the gift of mistrust for any and all future partners he may have if he choses to end the marriage of this.
But...if you feel this is and may become an ongoing pattern (and it sounds like it certainly could be) then you DO need to go WITH your husband to a therapist and talk about what happened, and what you can both do in the future. And if you should even remain married, if this scenario is likely to happen repeatedly.
Ahh go ahead and tell him, see if he can take it. Why not? Who knows, maybe the worse thing that could happen is he only treats you like silver instead of gold
I am sure it wasn't for that. This is what makes it so hard. I feel like an evil person and that he deserves better since he treates me like gold. Can I ever truly forget and forgive myself and have a true lasting relationship from this point on without telling him? It will kill him crush him in more ways there one if I do.
Yikes!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe he just married you to become legal. Don't mean to be harsh but it happens. Oh well, it will work out, after all, its only sex.
I apologize. Thank you for the input. Sincerely
Anonymous
Look your human do not tell him the truth! Make up for it by being a very good wife! This happened before you were married. Dont let it happen again. If you love him dont ever cheat on him again! This is your one time get out of jail card! However this is HIV forum. So your questions arent really HIV related. However I wish you the best of luck
This is the HIV forum.
But if you truly want to stay with this man, and your cheating was a one time occurrence, you must eat your guilt. Because that's what it is...Guilt. And it's yours to bear.
Your issues are very heavy - is there a way you can get to therapy?