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Dub Dish,
Now You are making me scared..As this is the first time in my life I am having sex with a Girl, I have tried it because I want to know, what needs to be done after getting married in terms of Sex..Inexperinced about condom u mean will never now If it is Failed or not?? now It is making hell lot of Scared..I would have never prefered in going to SW, but my friends has Pushed me to have experince..I wanted to be Virgin untill i get Married I am from very good Family.. If any of my Fmily knows this I went for HIV Test..I cant Imagine the Sitautaion at the moment..By God Grace I am HIV Negative till end of 8 weeks Test and would hope the same at my 12 weeks test.
To tell you much confident is that the Girl whome I had sex with the same girl my other friend also had sex even he is for First time having Sex, but he is lucky that he hasent experinced any Symptoms till now.
Symptoms are killing all times and my stress level is very High now. But I am confident enough to see the condom was intact till end of Sex and It was on my penus till she removed from It..
I belive in God and he would definetly help us.
Fingers Crossed and waiting to complete 12 weeks , which is more than 3 weeks Left from now.
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At least you've had the guts to test, I'm petrified to go anywhere near the testing centre. I can't bear to imagine me being positive with my parents still around looking towards me for support in their later years, I don't know what I'll do. Can these formations on my tongue be fueled by anxiety Lizzie? And are these called Canker Sores or Thrush? In your case Ven321 if you're 100% sure that your condom never failed, then I reckon you're completely in the clear, however in my case I never physically inspected the condom after intercourse, I merely assumed it was fine as it looked in shape and well fitted, there was an amount of slippage at the base of my penis and I know that's not a risk, but I'm freaked cause I can't be sure that IF IN the case my condom did rupture, that it would be visible to my observation after intercourse, all the knowledgeable people on here keep saying a broken condom always looks like a peeled banana or a hula skirt, but i've also seen post here that state for inexperienced condom users who're just unlucky sometimes end up with a failed condom that they can't visibly observe...Scary **** indeed, I've no choice to just wait for week 12 now and hope for the best.
VEN321 / DUB DISH
MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!
NEITHER OF YOU HAD A RISK. TAKE YOU CONCERNS TO EITHER THE ANXIETY FORUM OR THE OCD FORUM.
Hi DubDish,
I am in the same Situation as You are and the same Symptoms as You have been experincing Sorethroat, Malaise , White Tounge which will be there in the morning but goes off after Brushing, SomePimples like Red at back of Throat, which I have only one at the moment..even I am experincing the same stress, I had Protected Vaginal sex with the Condom and I am sure condom never failed till end of the sex and the lady has rolled of very carefully..but still now I am not sure why did I experince all this symptoms??
I have 3 Test at 3,5,8th weeks all are negative... We need to get Tested at 12 weeks for Our final results of Life, till than keep Calm and need to hold our nerves..
Btw, I had a exposure on 25th May'08 which is earlier than I guess and You had It on 29th May'08, how could u say Its 10 weeks now?? I guess Its been only 9 weeks after the exposure.
Dont worry god is great and we would here our results in our favour.
Guys, I'm freaking out. This is my 10th week since the CSW encounter and I've got these pimple-like formations on my tongue, they look like little red bumps a lot like zits except they're the same amount red as my tongue. They're mostly towards the back of my tongue with a few sprinkled here there at the front as well. When I examined it closer with a torchlight I realized that there's even a red spot at the back of my upper palette slightly above my uvula. This is really freaking me out, is this HIV associated thrush or canker sores? I do have a white tongue in the mornings but it usually goes back to normal after I've brushed my teeth. Guys please help me, this is really starting to freak the **** out of me, I've been sifting through the forum about condom breakage, and back in 2007 some of the regulars on this forum like Xhost stated that for people who aren't that experienced with condoms, it's pretty difficult to figure out if they broke or not, and it can be missed even if it looks normal. I can't sleep, eat, or literally function anymore thinking about this, I will test at 12 weeks but that not till another 2 weeks still, and these thoughts are killing me..
You are driving yourself nuts. If you SAW the condom after intercourse, then it didn't fail. You're now "what iffing" yourself to death. If there had been "slippage" at the base of the penis...there would still be no risk.
If you want to test...go ahead...we cannot possibly tell you any differently what we have been trying to tell you.
Go get tested at 12 weeks, and then report your negative result. And seek some help for the anxiety...that is the BEST thing you could do for yourself.
If not teak, can someone else please share their opinion on the above 2 concerns I have. I honestly feel that the condom slippage could've led to breakage that wasn't apparent to me when I saw the condom after intercourse.
I had 2 valid concerns, and you reported me. This is a HIV prevention forum is it not Teak? What was so wrong about my 2 questions above?
You've been reported, enough is enough.
I think you're being slightly unreasonable Teak, I merely need to ascertain my degree of risk on all bases in this situation. Anyhow I now have a new & valid concern that I'd like to highlight within the description of my incident which I SINCERELY BELIEVE PUT ME AT RISK; albeit low, but definitely not zero anymore. I have reason to believe that my condom failed, and due to slippage it was not apparent to me when I looked at it. I need your advice.
1. First off; You mentioned that when a condom fails it shreds, then please explain to me how there was a recent entry on the forum by Rodolphe_frenchguy titled 'Hole found in condom' in which he mentions that there was indeed merely a hole in his condom and no 'shreding' as such?.
2. I now realize that there was a slight amount of slippage at the base of my penis, and when slippage occurs the condom's tip becomes lose on the penile head to an extent correct? Now I'm sure there was slippage because about an inch at the base of my penis wasn't covered, now in this scenario if my condom broke it wouldn't be all that visible right? Since to begin with it was slightly loose at the head because of slippage, logically the condom's tip would merely just hang there due to gravity, and would be rather non-apparent to my eye if indeed a failure did take place. Keep in mind guys that I never actually checked the condom with my own hands after intercourse, I merely I saw and it looked normal to me but it had slipped slightly and the condom at the tip of my penis was slightly loose, therefore I can't really be sure that it didn't fail. In this light I need testing don't I Teak?
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Alright, also just thought I'd run it by you guys for future reference; Does condom effectiveness vary country from country? I mean I had this incident in Thailand, purchased the condoms there from a pretty decent pharmacy, they were by a recognized reputable 'global' brand and were stated as extra lubricated. All the boxes have "100% electronically tested" on em' these days. I checked the expiry date on em' as well, but noticed something slightly disconcerting; they were manufactured by Thailand and imported by Singapore. No racial insinuations or anything, but do you reckon condom reliability could suffer dependent on where they're being produced & manufactured? I mean quality control & testing procedures may not be as stringent in developing countries right, as opposed to fully industrialized places? Any insight on this?
*sigh*
When condoms truly FAIL, there is nothing left to "roll off" is what I meant.
Your condom did not fail, and you did not have a risk.
When condoms fail, there is a gigantic rip and your penis is sticking out of it. Its not subtle.
So wait, when condom's do fail, they're not rolled off? I don't get it. How does that work?
I know it is not that simple...that is anxiety for you. I've dealt with it (non HIV related) for pretty muich all of my life. Your mind plays tricks on you...and then you convince yourself of things that are not rational.
As for the condom issue...if she "rolled" it off of you, then there is absolutely NO way the condom broke, period.
Try to focus on getting some help for your anxiety....and the rest will follow.
You know, I wish it were that easy, I swear there are times during the day that I actually feel I've left all this anxiousness behind finally, but yet I seem to have that tiny doubt at the back of my mind about how that condom may have broke and I didn't notice it. The rational side of me dictates that I would've recognized it broken after the intercourse IF IT IN FACT WAS BROKEN. Strangely enough after intercourse, I even remember it looking fine and her rolling it off for me, yet there's this disconnect in my mind where I can't seem to convince myself that this was evidence enough that it DID NOT BREAK. I mean, till about the 7th week, I was absolutely 100% sure it never broke, and then with all these anxieties running through me, recently I came to a conclusion that I actually may have heard a faint noise during sex which I didn't pay enough attention too, but then there's the fact that when I looked at the condom after sex it looked fine, granted I didn't actually investigate it with my own hands, but it seemed to be in shape & fitted properly. Are you guys saying that there's no way a condom can merely burst at the top and still remain intact all the way along the shaft? Or something ambiguous like that? I mean IF IT DOES FAIL, does it always look like there's just the rim and nothing else but a skirt around your penis?
Granted I had no risk, but is there a possibility that seroconversion could manifest in the 9th week after a possible exposure
Read that sentence you wrote a few times. It doesn't make sense, and your anxiety is showing bigtime. You cannot have a "No risk" situation and a "possible exposure" with seroconversion.
Accept what everyone is telling you, that you are fine...and move on with your life. As soon as you do, and the anxiety goes away...so will a LOT of the symptoms, you'll see.
Out of curiosity, I've noticed the doctors say it on here, as well as some of the regulars that itching isn't a symptom of ARS & more likely a sign of anxiety. Is that true? Weird thing is that I'm having these burning sensations from time to time on my extremities (hands, fingers, legs, calves) and they itch periodically as well. It's easy to say that my mind is playing tricks on me, but I've never had these sensations before. Meanwhile I also feel a scratchy throat come on infrequently ever since the incident. Granted I had no risk, but is there a possibility that seroconversion could manifest in the 9th week after a possible exposure?
I've been scanning through this forum since May now Teak, and by far you truly are the most knowledgeable person here in matters of HIV, thank you for knocking some sense into me. Also I just noticed that you recently turned 53 (correct me if i'm wrong), in which case; Belated warm wishes are in order.
Correct and to add that the escort would have freakout on you had it failed.
So Teak, If I remember the condom looking normal in shape as opposed to a 'peeling banana', and recall seeing the escort rolling it off me with relative ease after intercourse; it's 100% safe to assume the condom didn't break right?