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Is Oral Sex Really Safe??
Hi there!
So I'm a 24 y.o. male and I had a sexual encounter with an unknown guy on Christmas last year, in which both he and I gave and received unprotected oral sex from each other. There was no anal intercourse whatsoever. He definitely didn't ejaculate in my mouth, and I didn't notice any pre-ejaculatory fluid, although I can't tell that for sure since he might've had it in a very small amount and thus, went unnoticeable. The next day I received unprotected oral sex from another guy, although I can't remember whether or not I s****d him in return (I believe not, but the truth is I really can't remember). Even if I did, it must've been less than 5 seconds. But my concern is, as he was really hard, I'm worried that he might've had pre-***, although again, he definitely didn't ejaculate in my mouth. I don't believe I had any cut or sore in my mouth at the time of both encounters, let alone any bleeding wound, although about a week after the last encounter I noticed I had quite a sore ulcer in my mouth which disappeared after a few days.
During the 2-4 weeks period after the last oral sex I didn't have any fever, rash, muscle pain, or swollen glands, but almost before the 4th week elapsed, I started having a sore throat and flu, and 2 nights ago I had a fever (no sweats) which disappeared the next morning. I'm still having the flu now (5th week), but it's mostly nasal congestion and sneezing, no cough or shivering whatsoever. No further fever has ever occurred.
I was tested last week for HIV and it came out negative. But the duration might be too short for a test (4 weeks after the possible exposure), so I'm planning to test again in the end of March (precisely 3 months after the sex). Meanwhile, I can't get this thing out of my head while waiting for March to come. Everything I read on the internet contradicts each other. Most of them indicate that my circumstances should not lead to any transmission, but who knows. I'll be really glad if you could share your thoughts.
So I'm a 24 y.o. male and I had a sexual encounter with an unknown guy on Christmas last year, in which both he and I gave and received unprotected oral sex from each other. There was no anal intercourse whatsoever. He definitely didn't ejaculate in my mouth, and I didn't notice any pre-ejaculatory fluid, although I can't tell that for sure since he might've had it in a very small amount and thus, went unnoticeable. The next day I received unprotected oral sex from another guy, although I can't remember whether or not I s****d him in return (I believe not, but the truth is I really can't remember). Even if I did, it must've been less than 5 seconds. But my concern is, as he was really hard, I'm worried that he might've had pre-***, although again, he definitely didn't ejaculate in my mouth. I don't believe I had any cut or sore in my mouth at the time of both encounters, let alone any bleeding wound, although about a week after the last encounter I noticed I had quite a sore ulcer in my mouth which disappeared after a few days.
During the 2-4 weeks period after the last oral sex I didn't have any fever, rash, muscle pain, or swollen glands, but almost before the 4th week elapsed, I started having a sore throat and flu, and 2 nights ago I had a fever (no sweats) which disappeared the next morning. I'm still having the flu now (5th week), but it's mostly nasal congestion and sneezing, no cough or shivering whatsoever. No further fever has ever occurred.
I was tested last week for HIV and it came out negative. But the duration might be too short for a test (4 weeks after the possible exposure), so I'm planning to test again in the end of March (precisely 3 months after the sex). Meanwhile, I can't get this thing out of my head while waiting for March to come. Everything I read on the internet contradicts each other. Most of them indicate that my circumstances should not lead to any transmission, but who knows. I'll be really glad if you could share your thoughts.
Thank you!
I promise this is gonna be my very last question: I'm not sure whether the ulcer developed after the sex or it was already there when i s****d him, but I just couldn't feel it because it wasn't as big and as painful as a week after that.
Assuming that it was already there when I gave the oral sex and assuming he had pre-*** in my mouth, would you still say that I'm OK?
Thanks in advance! You've been really helpful :)
". I don't believe I had any cut or sore in my mouth at the time of both encounters, let alone any bleeding wound, although about a week after the last encounter I noticed I had quite a sore ulcer in my mouth which disappeared after a few days "
you NEVER had a risk. there are a MULTITUDE of posts on this forum regarding oral sex. READ, READ, READ ! ! !
you NEVER had a risk. there are a MULTITUDE of posts on this forum regarding oral sex. READ, READ, READ ! ! !
Hi LIZZIE LOU!
Thanks for replying so soon!
Are you sure I'm OK even with the ulcer and the pre-***?
FROM THE HIV EXPERTS HERE AT MEDHELP:
There is no debate (among experts) about the HIV risks associated with oral sex. The risk is so low that almost nobody who cares for HIV infected patients has ever had a patient believed to have been infected that way. Among experts, it's a semantic issue about using terms like "no risk" and "very low risk". There is no difference between my or Dr. Hook's use of "low risk" and other experts' "no risk".
DR. HANSFIELD
"And oral sex is basically safe sex -- completely safe with respect to HIV and although not zero risk for other STDs, the chance of infection is far lower than for unprotected vaginal or anal sex. Please educate yourself about the real risks. If you stick with oral sex and condom-protected vaginal or anal sex, you have no HIV worries and very little worry about other STDs. " DR HANSFIELD
"I am sure you can find lots of people who belive that HIV is transmitted by oral sex, but you will not find scientific data to support this unrealistic concern..." DR HOOK
"HIV is not spread by touching, masturbation, oral sex or condom protected sex."- DR. HOOK
in the public HIV Prevention forum of MedHelp, TEAK and the other moderators maintain that oral sex in all forms is a zero risk activity. Would you agree with this assessment?
I TOTALLY AGREE / DR GARCIA
The observation on thousand and thousand of observations is that HIV is not spread by oral sex (of any sort). DR. HOOK
There is no debate (among experts) about the HIV risks associated with oral sex. The risk is so low that almost nobody who cares for HIV infected patients has ever had a patient believed to have been infected that way. Among experts, it's a semantic issue about using terms like "no risk" and "very low risk". There is no difference between my or Dr. Hook's use of "low risk" and other experts' "no risk".
DR. HANSFIELD
"And oral sex is basically safe sex -- completely safe with respect to HIV and although not zero risk for other STDs, the chance of infection is far lower than for unprotected vaginal or anal sex. Please educate yourself about the real risks. If you stick with oral sex and condom-protected vaginal or anal sex, you have no HIV worries and very little worry about other STDs. " DR HANSFIELD
"I am sure you can find lots of people who belive that HIV is transmitted by oral sex, but you will not find scientific data to support this unrealistic concern..." DR HOOK
"HIV is not spread by touching, masturbation, oral sex or condom protected sex."- DR. HOOK
in the public HIV Prevention forum of MedHelp, TEAK and the other moderators maintain that oral sex in all forms is a zero risk activity. Would you agree with this assessment?
I TOTALLY AGREE / DR GARCIA
The observation on thousand and thousand of observations is that HIV is not spread by oral sex (of any sort). DR. HOOK
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