Long Term Relationship - Scared and confused

I was watching a television show about how more and more women have HIV and don't know it and are spreading it. It got me thinking about my life and I freaked out. After reading a lot of the posts, there doesn't seem to be a concern quite like mine, so I'd like to share and get some feed back.

I was in a relationship with a guy for about 4 years. He said that he didn't have any STDs. Since the last time he was tested, I think he had or was in at least one if not two long term relationship with other women before me. He said that he hadn't had vaginal sex with anyone before me (tried, but she had some medical condition and had pain so they didn't try it again, but did do oral and fingering). About 1 year into my  relationship with him, I found out I had Herpes (We had done oral, vaginal, protected and unprotected, nothing anal though). I don't know that the guy was ever tested after I turned up with herpes. Which is incredible irresponsible, if true, because I know he's now moved onward into another relationship now. I was tested then for all other STDs and had nothing other than herpes. I kept sleeping with him for the next few years of our relationship, we didn't always have protected sex.

Because he said that he didn't have anything and I got Herpes while I was with him, I don't know that I can trust what he said.

At the time I figured now that I've been tested, there was no further threat. And I kept sleeping with him for the next few years. Now I'm not sure that was the right thought.

Was that assumption accurate, after a year, was there no further threat? Could I have still been exposed? It's been 10 years now since he could have been exposed, so in this world now, if he was HIV+ would I have been notified by now? I don't really keep in contact with him anymore so now that I'm all worried, I can't really call him up and ask him if he ever got tested again.

I've been married now for 2 1/2 years, we've been having unprotected sex ever since. My husband's job requires him to get tested regularly and his last test was around Sept '09 and was negative. Should I be worried?

I'm freaked out and waiting for my own test results.

[kumar007]

well you need to test yourself in order to find out your status...however its most unlikely you have hiv as you were tested once before and you were negative plus your husband tested negative as well..
its highly unlikely that after having unprotected sex with your bf for 1 year and you still tested negative(assuming if he was positive)
so dont worry you can expect a negative result

[kumar007]

well you need to test yourself in order to find out your status...however its most unlikely you have hiv as you were tested once before and you were negative plus your husband tested negative as well..
its highly unlikely that after having unprotected sex with your bf for 1 year and you still tested negative(assuming if he was positive)
so dont worry you can expect a negative result

[raining4593]

Thank you, for your response. I'm waiting for the test results to come back, and getting anxious.