Making a decision to move on

To all on this forum, thank you for your comments and support.  Today I am making a decision to try to move on and get my life back together.  I have scoured the internet, called hotlines, been to the doctor and was tested 3 times at 3, 4 and 5 weeks. I have made myself crazy.  

I realize now that my situation, one night of insertive uprotected vaginal intercourse with a friend who has reassured of her Negative status and even went to take a test with me (both of us were negative) is about as low risk as it can get.  I have let my anxiety and guilt get the best of me for the past 5 1/2 weeks and it is destorying my life.  

The Director at the testing facility I went to (the is a facility in major metropolitan area that see thousands of people each year) told me that he would not recommend further testing, unless I wanted to do it to put my mind at ease.  He said there is no reason to expect a different result.  My Doctor said he would not have recommed testing at all but now that I have done it and it was negative, I should move on.  These people are the experts and I have to trust there opinions.    

I don't know if will freak out again at some point but I am going to seek Psychiatric help for that.  

For all those here that are worried, see your doctor, get tested and most importantly take the advise of those who know best.  They surely tell you the same thing Dr. HHH says on his forum.  Most of us here are probably worried over a very low risk situation.

Godspeed!

[peekawho]

Great post.  Best of luck.  

[Jaguar83]

You are lucky. I still can't shake this feeling nor these 'symptoms.' Good luck.

[loosin' it]

Trust me, I am not saying that I have erased this from mind.  Nor am I saying that I no longer have any fears or concerns.  But I am making a concious effort to turst, 1) my friend who has been as forthcoming and reassuring as anyone can be (including getting tested with me), 2) my doctor who has reassured me that I am fine and 3) the Director of the testing facility who told me my test results at 5 weeks are considered "highly accurate" and that I was at a "low, low risk to begin with.  

If I can post my situation to Dr. HHH, I will so that he can also provide his opinion for me and everyone else.  But given all the reassurance I have received and my test results, I have to have faith and I have to try to move on.  

Best of luck!    

[Xhost]

The simple fact of the matter is this: an unprotected vaginal sex episode, for the male, is very, very unlikely to lead to contraction of HIV. In every western, industrialized nation in the world, this is the case.

I understand that you are nervous, and I also understand that you are worried, especially given the conflicting testing advice that you see online. But, your doctor has given you sound advice - the emerging consensus seems to be that, in situations such as yours, a 6 week test is quite enough to tell you your true HIV status. You have tested negative at 6 weeks, and, as your doctor has suggested, this seems to be enough evidence to prove that you are, indeed, HIV negative.

So, enjoy your negative status, and if you still find yourself worried about this, feel free to go ahead and get a 12 week test. It will, undoubtedly, be negative as well.

Take care of yourself.