Need an asnwer

Hello doctor,

I met a girl 2 days back and then I (male) fingered her vagina for quite sometime and also inserted my finger inside her vagina. Most likely I did not have any cuts on my fingers. After a while when I was putting the condom on, one of my finger which had the vaginal fluid (when I had finger in her vagina) touched my penis foreskin. Then I put on the condom. I did not get erection and my penis could not penetrate her vagina BUT I ejaculated as my penis rubbed agianst her vagina.
So my worry is that the vaginal fluid which was present on my penis when I was putting the condom on, would have touched the semen after ejaculation and the chance of HIV ?
I am really worried after this, and pls. need your help in the same.

1. Do I need to get a HIV antibody test ?
2. Do you think I am at a risk of HIV infection ?
3. Does HIV really transmit if I insert the finger in the vagina of the girl ? and what if I have a cut on my finger and then insert my finger in the vagina of the girl ?

Look forward to hear from you...

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Fingering doesn't transmit HIV and neither does trivial penile contact with vaginal secretions of the sort you describe.  And the chance your partner had HIV is almost zero.  1,2) You aren't at risk and do not need testing.  3) In theory a cut on the finger might increase the chance, but increasing a virtually zero risk still leaves virtually zero risk.  

No "yes but" or "what if" questions, please.  There is nothing you can add that would change my opinion or advice.  Best wishes.

HHH, MD

[jv1977]

Here is a situation that might calm peoples nerves when it comes to HIV transmisson risks. I know of a serodiscordant (guy is neg, girl is pos) married couple and for the past 10 years of their relationship the guy has tested negative for HIV. These two have french kissed, he has had his finger inside of her etc etc and they always use codoms. Can't get it from those things my friends. Unprotected vaginal/anal sex will put you on the chopping block for HIV. I suppose the safest route would not to have sex but very few people will listen to that advice, of course the people that do listen dont have to worry about aquiring HIV. Best scenario - be in a marriage to someone who is HIV negative as you are and dont cheat.