Need encouragement and guidance!!

[nexus2014]

Dear Reader,

I have just reached at the end of my window period. From yesterday, I am experiencing a little bit of pain on the left hand side of my neck. Yesterday it was mild but since today morning the pain has increased to some extent. I can not exactly pin point where is it aching, but when I go on pressing in that area, then I feel some painful points. However, I dont have any difficulty in swallowing. I cant see any visible swollen surfaces but thats from outside. Dont know anything about the internal swelling.

1. Does such pain occur due to swollen lymph nodes?
2. How painful are swollen lymph nodes?
3. Are swollen lymph nodes tender or solid?

I would like to share my background for your reference.

During my window period I experienced the following after my sexual exposure (Unprotected Oral and Protected Vaginal Sex):

1. Got some skin rash (minor and small red rash) on my chest during the first two weeks after?
2. Got fever ranging from 100 - 102 for just on day after two months.
3. Again got a rash after two months. This time, it was on the right side of the neck, left arm and left shoulder. It lasted for half day. (I had fungal infection since many years, and during this window period, my dermatologist had prescribed my medicine and shower gel. i thought the rash could be the side effect. The dermatologist gave me another cream. Since then no such rash.)
4. So far NO loss of appetite or loss of weight.

To be honest my wife is pregnant and she might give delivery anytime. My sexual encounter was nothing which was natural to me. On bad day, i loose my inhibitions hence ended up paying for sex with prostitute. I did use condom but my oral sex was unprotected. My sexual encounter lasted merely 8-10 minutes. Since then i have been feeling very bad, low, full of anxiety, etc. I have tried my best to tackle everything but still it does get to my head at times. but since my wife is in a sensitive phase, i have somehow been trying to maintain my composure.

Any experts encouragement and medical suggestions would be highly appreciated.

[nexus2014]

Thanks to both you. Yes the few moments of pleasure is not worth the anxiety that we are facing. I think if we were single then the anxiety would not have been there. Since all of us are married i think its tge guilt thats eating our brains.


Will definitely get tested. Good luck to you both.

[Darryl123]

Howzit buddy, Howzit buddy, stress and anxiety can lead to many things, it drives u crazy , get tested if u in doubt and think u had a exposure, I also had unprotected oral and protected vaginal sex, with a female who later on told me she was HIV poz,I took a HIV combo rapid antibody at just over 3 months , was negative , but the symptoms that I went thru, amazing , fevers , body pains, coated tongue, groin pain , mind u I'm in 7 months now and these pains r still with me, feels like lymph nodes, and malaise pains, sometimes I feel like I produced antibodies late for this test, never have u felt so crap before , now I take vitamins just to make it thru the day, it's hard to gather urself to get tested so dreading a another test now, cos all I think about mayb I changed to positive late, also my wife has picked up a odd red rash on her face , she never had bad skin , now she's complaining of all sorts of pain n always feel weirded , so sure I gave her Sumthing , it hurts buddy, it's only circumstances like these we reflect on how stupid we r for sexual pleasures, cos all we do is hurt people we care about, get tested buddy, to rest ur mind 3 months after exposure.

[kpark28]

i never had vaginal sex of any kind, only received unprotected oral. I did test with oraquick at home, and it was negative. Lots of symptoms have to do with anxiety. Best thing to do is test so you can move on with your life, i know its super stressful to wait, but its better than still being anxious everyday.

[nexus2014]

Thanks. Have u already tested. And did u have protected vaginal sex as well. Thanks for your kind words.

[kpark28]

no expert here but my situation was similar to yours, had unprotected oral, and i'll give you the advice I got from the Expert forum by asking Dr. H, oral sex is not a risk for HIV, symptoms don't matter, there has never been a reported sex from oral sex, and you won't be the first. Good luck.

[nexus2014]

An somebody please say something. I desperately some answers.