Oral Sex and HIV

I wonder if anyone can give me their opinion on my exposure and if you think I need to have an HIV test.  I want to know if oral sex between two woman is risky for HIV transmission?  This girl that I've been seeing for a couple of months now has informed me that she's actually bi and has had a couple of men too.  The only thing we did when we were together was have oral sex - both giving and receiving.  Is this what they call a risky activity?  I've heard so many conflicting reports that yes it is and no it isn't.

[macgyver16]

oral sex is close to zero risk

[Onescaredlady]

So what you're saying is that I don't have anything to worry about and that I shouldn't even bother getting tested?
I read on one of the websites about a woman to woman HIV transmission - is this not true?  Isn't a woman's precum also infected if she is HIV positive?

[Teak]

I read the same article. It could not be confirmed that, that was the only risk the woman had. The lubrication of the vagina in not the same as the fluids produce by the cervix. Like oral sex with men, it not a risk. There have been many studies of serocouples that have protected vaginal and anal sex and unprotected oral with no seroconversion. The only risk with women and men and women and women that are in serocouple relationship is during menstruation and it's not recommended to have oral sex at that time because of the high amounts of blood.

[Onescaredlady]

Thank you for your comments.  So basically what you're saying is that there has been no proven documentation that oral sex between two woman is a concern for HIV transmission?  Is it safe to say that I have nothing to worry about and even though she's been with men and could be HIV positive then what we did together isn't a concern for HIV?  We were both not menstrating at that point in time, so there was no blood involved, but what about vaginal fluids - is that not a high risk?

[Teak]

Correct. It wouldn't matter if she was positive, as long as you don't preform oral sex during menstration. There are other STDs that can be transmitted via oral sex and you both should test by having an STD panel done together. Then you both will know.

[Onescaredlady]

Thank you Teak for your comments - you won't believe how I've been going out of my mind the last couple of days.  So you think I can put this thing to rest now and get on with my life?  The lady that I was with is no longer in my life as she lied to me, so hoping all is okay. If you don't mind me asking, but are you a doctor or specialist and how did you get too know so much about HIV?  I think you guys are doing a wonderful job here and God Bless you all!

[Teak]

Just click on my name and you can read my profile.

[Onescaredlady]

I almost started crying thinking just 'how paranoid' about my oral encounter with a woman really was when there is so many unfortunate people then me.  I think that through all of this ... you're a very special person who understands the emotional turmoil everyone is going through and with the right understanding that you teach, hopefully we will all get to know about HIV a little better.  I wish you well my friend and want to THANK YOU for taking the time to help me understand that my risk isn't 'risky' at all.  I'm hoping to move on with life and maybe I should just get tested for peace of mind.  It's true what they say ... symptoms do appear with stress.  I'm going to take your advice Teak and put this behind me once and for all!

[Teak]

I always have the same thoughts, "There is always someone out there that is worse off than me."

[Onescaredlady]

I'm sure you do Teak and just remember one thing ..... YOU GUYS ARE DOING A FANTASTIC JOB HERE and I'm sure not only myself but alot of other people appreciate it!  How long have you been teaching people about HIV and Aids?  Is this your full time job or are you still a medic?

Take care and God Bless!!