Oral and Kissing to a HIV Positive guy

[deadworried12343]

Hi, I'm a 19 year old Latin guy that two days ago i met with this Jewish guy 28 years old i was talking on the phone with for over 2 weeks we were really interested in each other to take it seriously, when we met we started deep kissing rough like for over an hour, i did since the beginning i tasted what i think it was a metallic taste which i think that would be blood from his mouth. Anyways, one thing let to the other and we started performing oral sex on each other he deep throated me and i just sucked him for atleast 10-15 min and than again but i did taste precum and he did tell me he cummed a little in my mouth after that he didn't let me suck him anymore which was weird he just sucked me i do have very bad gums and bleed easily and sore on the cheeks. After all that he was very nervous and i left the other morning he texted me saying he was really sorry but that he had HIV since January and that he was afraid to tell me because i would reject him we met again and he confirmed to me that has was positive with papers and was not yet taking meds because the doc said his numbers were good. i was really sad not just because i may have contracted the virus but the fact i really liked the guy. I want to know the risk of this activity i read on the CDC saying even kissing is a risk with an HIV positive person and oral sex too less than anal but still a risk even more when the person has gums or sores in the mouth which i did and still have!

[joggen]

The poster alexia734 has given you wrong information. Oral sex does not transmit HIV.

[alexia734]

Dear deadworried,

we need to spread the message that all gays and straight girls should use a condom for oral sex as you are literally taking a shot of whatever the person has straight into your mouth upon ejaculation, and the comination of syphillis and HIV can be very dangerous. Overall, however, I would say very low risk but to go get tested. You will also need to decide how you will shape your relationship with this man due to his virus. There ae many couples with one partner positive who does not transmit their virus onto the other in the relationship. I would however recommend check ups every 6 months if you decide to commit to this man for the future.

Best of Luck,
Bobo

[Teak]

Use the community search function. You'll get your answers.

[deadworried12343]

Also is there any link explaining the oral sex is not a risk because everywhere i look it says that its low risk?

[deadworried12343]

so even if there was blood present and and he was performing oral on me for a long time and i have bad sores and gums and he precummed in my mouth there was still no risk? Should i even consider testing?

[Teak]

At no time were you ever at risk of contracting HIV in the situation you've provided.