Oral sex without ejac. in mouth. Also, had my wisdom teeth pulled four weeks ago.

Hi Dr.'s and experts,

I am a 19yr gay male, and I have had a few encounters in the past few days...
I try to be as safe as possible. I have never done anal sex, and always ask people's HIV status beforehand.
However, people can't necessarily be sure whether they're 100% negative, so I just assume that every person that I've been with are positive. (I know...pessimistic)
I know that this question have probably been asked for a thousand times, I just wanted to re-assure my practices in the future.
First, oral sex without condom, but without ejaculation in mouth is considered safe?
Secondly, I had 2 wisdom teeth pulled about 4 weeks ago, would they still increase my chances of getting HIV through my mouth (assuming that my partner is +)?

As far as I know, I have a pretty good oral health. Sometimes I eat stuff that are too hot and my gum feels sore though.

All I've done is deep kissing, making out, jerk off, and oral (without condoms, though). However, I believe that all the above are considered fairly safe?

I know it might sound boring. But I'd rather live healthy for the next fifty years than having a slightly better evening!

Thank you all for your input.

-Mr. Want to be REALLY safe.

[likeomfug]

Although the risk is low, the risk is real. There have been confirmed cases of people getting HIV from oral sex, but even if your partner were positive, there is only a 1 in 10,000 chance you get it. Whether or not you think that risk is there or negligible is up to you

[Morty92]

You are correct about the oral sex.  

HIV can only be transmitted by...
unprotected vaginal or anal sex
sharing the works for IV drugs
from mother to child.

If you had your wisdom teeth pulled out, I doubt you will be letting anyone stick their penis in there until it has healed properly.  The bruising and pain that goes with pulling wisdom teeth can be severe, and I really doubt that oral sex would be any fun at all for a while.

Make sure you use condoms for any vaginal or anal sex, and you will not get HIV from it.  That will be a good start for your plan of 50 healthy years.

[trytobesafe]

Thank you so much! Now I feel less paranoid.

The reason I asked the question was because on the internet, everyone says that there IS risk for oral sex. And that is why I was worried about the cavity from my wisdom teeth extraction could pose a risk by providing an entry for the virus through my mouth.

I do not feel any pain at all as of this point, and so i assumed that the extraction site was fully healed.

I assume that you feel like oral sex only poses THEORETICAL risk for HIV transmission?

Again, thank you so much.

[Morty92]

Yes, a lot of people do describe the HIV risk from oral sex as "theoretical".  In any real circumstances that is the same as no risk at all.

[likeomfug]

Although the risk is low, the risk is real. There have been confirmed cases of people getting HIV from oral sex, but even if your partner were positive, there is only a 1 in 10,000 chance you get it. Whether or not you think that risk is there or negligible is up to you

[likeomfug]

But overall, both doctors on this forum find the risk to be nothing to worry about

[Teak]

Oral sex does not transmit HIV. Period.

[trytobesafe]

wow thank you all so much for your help!