PLEASE! Help me ease....

[Wit_ease]

The night of October the 5, 2009 I had unprotected anal sex with a gay male. He and I both penetrated one another, but there was no ejaculation inside. Some days later I became paranoid because I noticed blood in my anal area and I realized how I jeoperdized my life so I told him how I felt. He told me he was negative for HIV because of a previous 6 month physical. Then a day or two later he contacts me and said he had an oral HIV test and again was negative. I met with him that day and viewed the paperwork myself and it appeared legit. We hooked up one more time unprotected.But, the week of October 18, I noticed a red raised spot in my left armpit. Then a few days later there was one in my right armpit, and as the days passed I noticed more over my body....A few mornings I would wake up and my throat would be a bit sore but it would go away. Also, sometimes at work I would get a small headache that would go away also. The morning sore throat is somewhat usual, the headaches aren't. When I started seeing more small patches, I became even more paranoid and anxious! I showed the spots to my mom and she says she has had them and it's just skin fungus. I wasn't satisfied with that so I went to the doctor November 3rd. He diagnosed me with Tinea Versicolor. An important piece of information is that in the month of October I began using my schools shower more, and would hang my towel over the curtain rod. My tinea versicolor doesn't look like some of the pictued I've googled and it hasn't subsided like I thought, infact I've noticed more lately.

My partner is a gay male I met online....
I'm 20 he's 38 and I believe he's very sexually active....
The HIV clinic said testing so soon would be irrelevant...
The headaches have been coming up after I reasearched HIV and became very anxious....
I've been obsessing over this for a couple of weeks now and I'm very anxious and paranoid....

1. My actions were risky, but what's all of your opinions on the chances??
2. Could he have cheated the oral HIV test, or passed because he's taking meds??
3. I'm very concered, and really have no one to express myself to.What do you all think???