Possible Exposure. Please Help

Last Dec. 1, 2007, I had sex with a CSW in a massage parlor. It was the first time I did this and I regretted it so much now. She put condom on me and started doing oral sex before proceeding with penetration. The sex lasted for about 20-30 mins. .

Two weeks after that incident, I had swollen lymph nodes in my neck, and I could also feel the nodes above my collar bones to be enlarged as well.  

Dec. 28, I went to the doctor and told him about what happened; he felt my neck and said he couldn't feel any swollen lymph nodes. However, he had me checked for blood-count (CBC Test) and the result was normal. He also referred me to public health for a free HIV testing.

The doctors here keep saying there is minimal risk for HIV if condom is used; but the thing is, I remember the condom that the CSW took from the table was already opened. It was no longer in its wrapper. And I was so stupid to not even complain, and now I'm very scared if the condom got tiny holes on it when I used it.

Just today, I woke up with a sore throat and I could still feel my swollen lymph nodes but not so much as before. I also felt my throat to be itchy and I cough sometimes. I don't have any fever or other symptoms -- just those four.

I'm too scared to go to public health for testing because I heard it's not anonymous. I asked the doctor if he knew any other clinics that perform anonymous HIV testing, but he didn't know.

Please help, what should I do? I think I am infected with HIV :( I should never have done it.

I kissed the girl, not on the lips but on her body. And after the did, she put her clothes on but never took a shower. They have a shower in their rooms and they ask customers to take a shower before and after the did. It's a wonder how many customers she had been with before me and never took a shower in each case.

[negative_777]

no risk...move on...

[cac2050]

Thanks chrisneedshelp and negative_777 for the quick reply. You said I have no risk, but how come I have swollen lymph nodes for 3 weeks now? And today I have a sorethroat and a little cough. Do you think I might have caught something else during the sex?

Also, will a CBC test detect if I have HIV? The doctor said that it will determine if I have some kind of infection that causes the swollen nodes, but the result came back normal. So, if I have no infection then why am I having these symptoms?

[Torontoindie]

same story here,
  had protected sex with a CSW, she removed the condom after the climax, I am not sure if it was on during the full course or not sure if it isn't broke....

you feel the guilt only when u have such doubts and vice versa.
I agree with chris protected is protected....

[cac2050]

Thanks Torontoindie. One question though, have you had any possible HIV symptom after the incident like what I have? Especially on the swollen nodes part, it's scarying me since I can see no reason why I have this except that mistake I did.

[Torontoindie]

I had cough/ sore throat/fever/cold

I will go for a test after another six weeks..

[negative_777]

symptoms means what,no mean.you are no risk.you are a worried-well person,me too.i'v taken twice boold test,the result came out were all negative,but i still worried.so if you worried,just test.no believe symptoms.

[negative_777]

i sucked via lasted 5seconds(sex worker),she seems not to be at her period,because i did't see any boold in her via,i did't konw there were any cuts which i cound't see in my mouth,just kewn no boold in my mouth.sex with comdon lasted 30seconds,i did't check it broke or not.the doc of cdc(ningbo,zhejiang,china)said that perfrom oral sex just single time and sex with comdon need't take boold test.means that i no need to take boold test at first palce.you are no risk...move on...

[cac2050]

Hi, Torontoindie, can you please update me of your test? I'd like to know the result. Thanks again.

[cac2050]

Hi, negative_777, thanks for replying. I appreciate it very much. After that incident, did you have any symptoms like swollen lymph nodes, sore throat, itchy throat and cough? I'm experiencing these symptoms right now and it's making me worried sick.

I literally can't think of anything to do than going online and read anything about HIV. The thing is, that was the only time I had sex with a CSW, and now I feel sick. My nodes are swollen in the side of my neck, above my collar bones and under my jaws and this is the first time I have experienced these nodes swollen at the same time. And now, a sorethroat coupled with cough and itchy throat.

[negative_777]

sore throat lasted nearly 6weeks,at 7weeks catch a cold.no talk about symptoms,it's no mean.i'm also afraid of  symptoms,when i took first boold test i did't believe symptoms,again retest at 12weeks negative,still not believe symptoms.so you can move on...i asked cdc(jiangsu,china),said window period is 6-8weeks,12weeks is as known window period.

[negative_777]

be sure again you are no risk,let it go.if you still worried,just test.avoid having sex with others,only your wife.stay safe...move on...

[cac2050]

Thank you so much negative_777 and to all who responded my questions. Thanks I appreciate it very much. It sure helped me feel at ease.

[bpr123]

Hi,

I also had similar experience like you. I am suffering form sore throat from 3 weeks and neck,shoulder pain. I am not sure about swollen lymph glands. Can you please let me know how to identify whether they are swollen or not...

Tony

[cac2050]

Hi, Tony,

You could feel the nodes in your neck even if you don't touch them by simply turning your head left and right or when you swallow your food. When I went to the doctor, he said he didn't feel them, but I know they're there because my neck feels weird.

I found another clinic that offers HIV testing for $22. The nurse took some blood off me and I am now awaiting for the result a week from now. I hope and pray that it is negative. I'm on my 5th week post exposure.

Also, I now have a slight fever. Nurse said my body temperature was 99 degrees. The normal is 98.

[tacotrd06]

I'm in the same boat as you. The exact same thing, csw, questioning the integrity of the condom, etc, is plaguing my mind right now. I've had a negative oraquick oral adv. after 3 years (this happened in 2004) and I still can't get it out of my mind....I thought I was the only one, what scared me most was the fact that SHE had a condom...I dunno where she got it from, what brand, did it work, etc.....I have only 1 neg. test so far after 3 years...I'm going to get another one....

[cac2050]

Hi, tacotrd06,

Yes, I'm worried sick now. What happened last Dec. 1 was the biggest mistake I ever did in my life. I would never do it again.

[Torontoindie]

My 6.5 weeks Elisa came out negative...
I look at the calender all the time, and count the gap (13th week )

[Teak]

Of course it did. You never had a risk in the first place.

[Torontoindie]

  I had protected vaginal with csw in 2003, 2004 & 2005 june.
  Tested -ve at 2005/august -  2005/november, 2006/Jan, 2006/MAY

  no HIV , no STI's
  
  I decided I would never visit a CSW

  In July 2007, I had protected with a regular women in short term relationship.  same in 2007 august another short term relation (protected).

In Nov 2007, the day when i was too happy drank too much and lost my mind.

I had oral and Vaginal with CSW (both protected). but this time, i used two condoms and i never was sure how the condom was by the end of the intercourse.

Although, I never had unprotected sex, It has been bothering me that,  my past history could create problem...


I feel shame, guilty and am hating myself for repeating the mistake.

tested -ve at 6.5 weeks (didn't take the DUO) only ELISA antibody I took...  what do you say man?
what are my chances?
            

[NoMoreScared]

I took mine at 6.5 weeks and moved on. No further need to worry.

[Torontoindie]

I hope/wish this  is what teak would say

I will sleep well tonight. I didn't sleep four days before the 6.5 week test.