he was unable to penetrate me. He fingered me for a while and then apparently was able to get an erection and entered me for a short time ( less than 30 seconds) without a condom
Thanks for the quick response. I went tot he local health clinic since I am traveling at the moment. The nurse/PA indicated that in order to get PEP I would need to go to the emergency room. She thought the risk of infection was unlikely. I sent him an email asking how certain he was of his HIV status and will wait for a response this evening. At that point I will act based on his response. If he does not respond, my concern will be higher.
The only risk you had was the unprotected anal sex which I know that you already know. You can obtain your conclusive test 3 months post exposure and/or 3 months post your last dose of nPEP if you decide to go with it.