Hello, kind people. I've just discovered this forum yesterday, and it helped me loads to at least sleep well yesterday as I had fears of contracting something from a recent sexual intercourse.
But it all changed today, when the person I had sexual intercourse would not consent to getting tested with me. She has now blocked all my numbers, both for text messages and telephone. I have accepted that I now have no means of contacting her, let alone get her test results.
Judging from her recent updates, I may have pissed her off by not fulfilling my promise to her today that I will accompany her a skin doctor on. Other than that, I feel that I have not earned her attitude towards me. Her last message to me didn't even have the tone that she was angry with me.
Now about this recent intercourse. I had condoms on. I was drunk but I distinctly remember putting condoms on. I also remember pulling out and replacing the condom with a new one because I thought I was going to ejaculate but didn't. On the second condom, I ejaculated outside but still had my condom on me. This belief was affirmed with the two used condom packets that I found in my room in the morning after this event. I had the condom on for all the vaginal intercourse before any contact.
Now, there's two main concerns that I have regarding this event, other than her weird attitude above. One is that she was menstruating (I have no cuts or bruises on my hand or penis that I can see) and, and the second thing is I received unprotected oral sex from her the morning after (I don't remember her bleeding inside the mouth, but I didn't really look inside the mouth either).
My question is, how are my chances that I contracted something? Should I get tested immediately or wait for the HIV window period? I feel a slight burning on my penis, but I'm telling myself that it's from my anxiety and very very excessive fear. It may not look like it, but I'm pissing my pants because I fear that I have contracted HIV. It's 3 AM and I'm still not sleepy. I haven't eaten dinner yet I don't feel hungry. I'm starting a new job next week, and I'm starting to think that I'm in no mental shape to do that just now.
And, oh yeah, in an update, she mentions going to get a "check-up" with a friend. I have no idea what sort of check-up it will be.
Please help me...