Purpose of this Forum---EVERYONE PLEASE READ

Let's cut to the chase here....

I have been a member on this website for several years.
The ONLY persons that I have seen make ANY sense with true responses are/were: Teak, MonkeyFlower and Xhost . XHost I do not think even is on here anymore.  MonkeyFlower refuses to post on here due to the anxiety-driven questions, and Teak is the only rational one who has any patience.

So,
To all those worried-wells out there who cheated on their wives, received BJ's, and kissed someone.....GETA FREAKIN GRIP.  

THis forum is turning into a 3 ring circus.

I truely think people post just so that they can have their thread on top of the page.

People, for the most part, you have anxiety issues....too many that people on-line cannot help you with.


So,....PLEASE....stop with the incessant, ridiculous thread postings...unless you had a TRUE RISK.

ORAL SEX IS NOT......NOT  A TRUE RISK!!! GET IT?

[LIZZIE LOU]

you are right...and i absolutely take responsibility in adding to the circus this morning...but sometimes it just drives me sooooo freaking crazy.   my son DOES have hiv...and i think it is so insensitive for those who continue to play games on here...changing screen names...changing stories a wee bit just so they can ask the same questions over and over again.

and then this is what i really don't understand.   there are those here that cannot get past their "possible risk" and take "no risk" for an answer...but yet they are the same ones who are telling others that they are at no risk...why is that?   if you can state that someone else is at NO RISK...then why cant they accept this themselves and move on.  

so...i'm gonna leave this madhouse for the day...and say a little prayer that those who are TRULY in need of help, support, and advice...will not be affected by the daily drama that occurs here...and i am truly sorry for my part in it today.

[Brian123]

Do not apologize.
I have to throw in my smart @ss comments because I get tired of it as well.
So many here need a shrink...not a HIV test.

[uglyduck]

I'll be honest with you Brian. I agree with you for the most part, and I know is very insensitive from most of us to post the same question all over again.

This is my first time in an HIV forum, this is also the first time I received oral sex from a TRANNY PROSTITUTE FROM THE STREET....(first time from a man cuz a tranny is a man) AND THIS IS THE FIRST TIME SOMEONE BIT ME DURING ORAL SEX AND BLOOD CAME OUT. ON TOP OF THAT THIS IS THE FIRST TIME I HAD SO MANY SYMPTOMS THAT RELATE TO ARS. I dont work, I dont do sports, I do absolutely nothing. Now, you tell me, how is it possible that after oral sex with a tranny hooker I'm going to develop so many symptoms. I'm a healthy 22 year old. I do hope my mind is doing all this to me, however, after 20 something symptoms is hard to believe that.
I have read many posts about fatigue, diahrea, dizziness, headche, fever, and few more things, probably 7, 10 or 12 symptoms, but 20... BTW my strep culture came back negative... so what else can I think of... the only thing left is HIV... anyhow... I think what you mean is this:

ORAL SEX (intact skin) = ZERO RISK

My skin was broken... two layers of skin went off... So believe it can be kind of scary when you live ina  third world country like mine, where if you are HIV+ you dont get a job, if I dont have a job how the hell am I going to pay for MEDS... If I would have been in the U.S. probably I will be less scared, but I'm not.

What the heck... probably I might need shrink too... good luck to you all!!!

[Jaguar83]

And I am giving him my honest advice (and so, support). Sorry, the truth sucks sometimes.

I believe he is having trouble coming to grips with the fact that he is bisexual. It's as simple as that. He got willingly blown by a male. If that's not the definition of homosexual, I'm not sure what is...

[Teak]

Just because someone is a transgender and they still have their penis, does not make them a homosexual. Maybe you should read up on the topic of transgenders. They are of their own group and not to be confused with homosexual and bisexuals.

[Brian123]

once again....why this forum is not being used properly?

[Xhost]

Well, imagine my surprise, I was gone for a little while, decide to catch up on what's been going on, and out of the past comes Brian123. How the hell are you, Brian? Glad to read you here again.

Now, as for the purposes of the forum, personally, I think it *is* serving the purpose that the good Doctor had in mind when he asked that it be created. Namely, to draw the overflow of worried wells out of his moderated forum and into another - this one!

It's been discussed here many different times about what is, exactly, the purpose this forum serves. As you may probably guess, I am thinking it is doing exactly as it was intended. It gives those suffering from anxiety a place to come to blow off some steam. I see nothing wrong there. Sure, x number of posters are going to need a bit more than anonymous posters in an Internet forum can provide, but you know what? From what I have seen, most of the posters are here until they finally get the negative result that convinces them they are HIV negative, and then you don't see them much anymore.

Something else this forum provides? A sound education in the ways and means of HIV. All of these people, clueless when they arrive, but educated when they leave. That's got to be a good thing.

So, I guess the point is this: sure, sometimes you have to wade through the umpteenth post about oral sex and HIV, and you start to wonder about people. Then again, the people coming here for the first time, asking these types of questions, they don't know the answer, or they know it intellectually, but emotionally, they still don't believe it. In a few weeks or months, when their fear is gone, anxiety replaced by peace, they will be better for having come here, more educated and more empowered to keep themselves HIV negative. How could they not be? They are getting an education from posters like you, Brian, and Teak and Monkey and Peak and everyone else that is well worth the price of admission.

As for me, I am going to go back and read that Oral Sex and HIV thread I started on before I wandered into here.

Take care all!

[pretty_scared_tx]

wow, that was nicely put.

Brian I agree with you, mostly because I know answering all the questions on the forum must wear you guys thin sometimes. I also know firsthand how draining it must be for you because even tho I have a legitimate risk, I'm a total worry wort and live for moments to hear people to tell me "hey you'll be ok". That's what most of the people that come here want to hear.  I wouldn't want this place to be misused at all because man I learned a hell of a lot here, and I think misuse of the forum is real offensive to people here trying to help others who actually have the disease or deal with it first hand. You do a good job though so don't get frustrated.

[OrionQuest]

People come here for support, whether for intellectual (correcting misconceptions) or emotional (help them in their time of need), but I agree that it must be hard keeping the balance between the two.

[mike_no]

"People come here for support"

....and I'm sure, the support is definitely provided to them however if they don't accept the support and keep cribbing about their symptoms no one can help, it's been repeatedly told here in the forum that oral sex is no risk, 3 month's conclusive, kissing, blood splash on skin etc are no risk but we still see people speculating these information and at times there are people who would actually want to hear "Yes, you have HIV", they wouldn't just believe the logical explanation for why the above mentioned are not a risk and 3 month's conclusive.

Most of the people here on the forum don't even have a real risk but frenzy over an irrational fear for 3 months (few go up to 6 months, a few more up to 1 year and may be a few others keep testing for the rest of the life) after they receive their conclusive  test result, they doubt "Another / New Subtype" and go for a few more set of tests again but still won't listen to the people advising them nor the doctor.

There are few who'd come back with a changed pseudo screen ID and start advising others or form a new story to keep cribbing about some thing like " I was kissed by an 80 year old lady, who might have been promiscuous when she was young" !

This forum is simply a madhouse, I do agree there are a few who really need and deserve help rest others are bloody jokers.

[Brian123]

HEY  XHOST!!!
hoping you would re-appear.
I miss your thought-provoking posts.

Hope all is well.

Mike_no:
Yes, so often does this forum get those threads.
Indeed some people need help beyond the scope of this forum.  Let's pray they get that assistance that they need insteade of dealing with the irrational fear of HIV that they intend to exhibit.

[mike_no]

So true, all we could do is "HOPE" !

[coz80]

Hey Mike,
Can you suggest a good Doc in Mumbai for this xxx scare.

[mike_no]

What the Fu.ck is xxx ?

[coz80]

xxx is the thing why we are worried about.....
plz try to understand I can not write these three scary words even  I will delete the words as alphabets if i would have a power like that.
anybody knows about subtypes present in netherlands??

[mike_no]

I'm not scared of xxx though I love to see them, I've been watching them from my school days actually to share a secret with ya'll it's kinda served me as a tutorial to love making !

C'mon coz, tell me what makes you scared of xxx ?

[mike_no]

You've conclusively tested negative, if you have a problem accepting your result, you shouldn't be here but seeing a shrink, go to any hospital there in Mumbai and ask for the psychiatrist.

secondly, you no longer belong to this forum but the anxiety forum, I'd help you with the link;
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/AnxietySupport/wwwboard.html

[coz80]

see mike I am not afraid of dying.
but with these kind of scary infections??
as of now thrush is not going away..........
In our country you know better that this xxx is more bad than cancer or something.
so I want to consult a doc if you can guide me ............May when i will come back then i will consult
what your doc has suggested you after the check ups??

[mike_no]

Even I had infections, he suggested another HIV test but I care "four F.ucks" about it since I have a negative 12 weeks under my belt and thats the end of the story.

[coz80]

you also had a pcr done so this is conclusive.

[mike_no]

You have a 17 weeks (OMG) negative, so this is conclusive too !

[coz80]

with these words you are a dear buddy for me =))
hope I will get rid of this strange infection....
I will post my bands information in the evening.
coz

[coz80]

I love Rod stewart "i am sailing" now a days

[HIV 24]

Well, that's exactly why I stopped answering questions regularly. I've noticed that the questions and stories never change. However, I only answer questions that come from people who really need an answer.

I love to answer here because I always try to make English part of my daily life. I need the language from time to time.

Hopefully things will get better here. People who use the same IP and post under several names should be banned.

R.A

  

[coz80]

sorry if my mails are causing trouble for anybody as this was not my intention.
I was just trying to get some advice and want to share my experience...thats it!!
I already have enough problems....
I will not post here in future........
Guys good bye and good luck to you all
coz

[simplemind]

I think this is a great forum. I've been on for ages. If I manage to get out of this without the big one, I swear I wont be back. I just want to live. People say protected sex is no risk but I can't shake the way I feel. Now I have a fever blister. I haven't had one of those in a while. I'm beyond depression at this point, but after 3 months I'm finally going to get tested. I have no clue what I'll do if I actually have this damn thing. The thought makes me sick where I want to vomit. The girl I was with claims she doesn't have anything, she's a liar. I always think back to my dry mouth I had 2 wks after protected sex with her. My mouth never was that dry in my entire life. Thats how I know I have this sh*t.