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Received Oral Sex

Hi, on the 9th of march 2013 I received oral sex from a FKK brothel in Berlin. From the 11th onwards I have been in a panicked state.
Actual things in the BJ:
After a night of heavy drinking we went to this FKK place in berlin called Artemis. This place is obviously legal and the website says that all girls are tested for HIV and STD on a regular basis. I was a bit drunk and after some discussion went with a women (who said she was german). Before she took me to the room she said that I had to have a bath, after that in not a very well light room she proceeded to place towels on the bed. I touched her vagina from the outside only as she told me not to put my fingers in, then touched her breasts for a moment with a little bit of sucking. She then rolled a condom on me and proceeded to given protected oral for about 5 minutes, as I was drunk and with bad judgement I told her to remove the condom and give me unprotected oral (I didn’t know that  HIV could be transmitted this way). I also asked her if she was clean for which she replied saying that this was her job and she had to be clean. She rolled off the condom and proceeded to give me an unprotected bj for about 10 seconds max, I could feel that she had a lot of saliva when she was doing this. I told her that I would ejaculate outside and when that happened she cleaned me with a wet wipe. I told her that I would not have a protected sex with her so we left.  Upon taking a shower I noticed a red mark just beneath the head of the penis. Next day I saw the same and noticed that there was a small dot- no puss, not paining at all even when water was applied with soap. My stool is generally a bit hard so when passing it causes some discomfort, earlier that day for the last 3 days  I was having a laxative and with some wear and tear during travelling with my underpants there were some scratches on my *** but otherwise the penis did not have any sores. The csw was of good health and although I did not get to see her mouth I don’t think she had any cold sores or anything.
This place has an entrance fee of 80 Euro and a sex fee of 60 Euro so I would assume that it is a decent wellness brothel.
Symptoms:
• 2nd day onwards I have been having diarrhea, this continued for about 2 weeks and I then went with a over the counter antibiotics and stool controller which helped me. However I normally have a very strong digestive system and this causes me to worry. Till now my stool has not solidified yet but neither do I feel I have diarrhea but a general feeling of weak stomach is there.
• I have had some rashes on my face but this was due to an old razor and as soon as changed this it went away. Some rashes like red bumps keep on coming in my body near the chest and back but this is not localized. In the past my skin is very sensitive to dust and baths etc.
• No high fever but sometimes I feel a bit feverish.
• Sore throat is not something that I am familiar with but I do smoke  and when travelling back from berlin and Scandinavia as the weather was cold I had tonsillitis. When it’s a bit cold or the air is cold I get tonsillitis.
• I am uncircumcised but have not had any rashes or breakouts in my private parts.
• I slightly feel that my lymph nodes are swelling as turning my neck to the right stings a bit and I do feel a slight swelling. However as this is a symptom I continuously keep on touching my neck.
• I have a bit of backaches but this is normal as I suffer from a bad back. No muscle aches as of now. Fatigue or tiredness is also normal.
I have never had an episode with csw prior to this. I have a loving wife and 22 months old son. I feel guilty of this and I know if I had not drunk heavily I would never have been in this state. I live in Nepal so HIV is a stigma here. After coming back I was sleeping in the same bed with my son and wife. I normally drool when I sleep and my son sleeps right next to me after about a week coming back my son caught a viral and bad cough, I was paranoid but read later that in household setting it is only a toothbrush or a razor that could possibly cause a transmission. I am very careful for this and after that I sleep on the floor away from him. My wife was not feeling well earlier but this was due to her PMS and late menstruation cycle. I would never be able to live with myself if I have given my family the HIV virus. I have established rules in the house not to use my bathroom and toothbrush and razor. I believe I am safe in this although if I am seroconverting my saliva could also be dangerous as I always have a brush and floss before I sleep and my son is small and has general cuts in the hand and face. Please tell me this is safe area and I do not have a concern. I am sooo scared that I haven’t even been able to hug my son properly and genrally only kiss him on head. One instance is that I cleaned him after changing the diaper with water on his bums. My hands did not have any recent cuts and water and soap was used as well. I have not had any sort of sexual intercourse with my wife as well. Although after shaving, when aftershave and cream was applied she kissed my cheek.
I had a ELISA check for HEP A,B and HIV on the 13th day. All is negative. The doctor suggested that I should come in on my 45th day and do a PCR RNA test to confirm if cant wait for 3 months. Is this correct?
Like I said I have been in a monogamous relationship with my wife for the last 5 years. I have never done this before and if  I test negative I have promised my self that I will never indulge in this further on. I am really scared but your forum and poz.com are the only ones that say oral sex is not a risk for HIV. I hope and I pray that this is true and I don’t become the 1 in 20000.
I beg you to please respond.
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This means I can have unprotected sex with my wife and hold my child and continue living a normal life... this doesn’t have any consequences what so ever of HIV...is this what you mean?
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Thank you so much, as mentioned by you I will not test and live my life accordingly
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No.
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Would you recommend that I test.
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Well i didn’t mean it that way Teak. I apologize if this has caused you any inconvenience but you don’t know at this moment your one post has changed my outlook in life.. Please I apologize if I have offended you..All I want is your reassurance that I can go ahead with m y life and not always be suffering for this issue.
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Why should I say more? Why did you post when you stated you've read other replies?
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Should I also drop the idea of testing for HIV or should I go ahead..
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Thank you for reply..are you positive that i do not have a HIV concern Teak..I have read through all your replies and you generally only respond with 1 sentence which I appreciate as you have never stopped taking others lives into consideration and not reply on any posts. I sincerely appreciate your response and would request why you say I don’t have a hit concern.
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You don't have an HIV concern.
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