went it. I told her to stop and then she put a condom on her finger and continued to touch anus. Maybe finger went in. I am at risk of HIV? I don't know if any vaginal fluid was on her hands when she removed the condom from me.
Before I answer your question - try and think through what's going on in your mind. What you are experiencing is anxiety - and it is totally understandable given the nature of this illness. Now to answer your question - basically no risk at all.
1. Your penetrative sex was condom protected and that is safe sex (assuming the condom did'nt break - and you would know if that happens)
2. The blowjob was condom protected - again no risk
3. Hand to genital contact has never been known to transmit HIV, simply because the virus is fragile and is destroyed easily - also the quantity of her vaginal fluid on the condom and then onto her finger just would'nt be enough for transmission.
By the way, if a sexual exposure of this nature adds so much anxiety, you might want to reconsider your lifestyle.